Overcoming The Fear Of Being Close To Someone?

[Padfield]

I have never felt this way before until recently. But I have grown relatively terrified of being close to people. Fear of abandonment. In romantic relationships, and friendships even. Especially when it comes to opening up to people. Revealing my past. Revealing insecurities. None of my relationships have ended well for me. I've been used, abused, lied to, cheated on. In every relationship. But lately I've been "freaking out" in my mind. As soon as things get going with a woman, I start to over think. I know a lot of my thoughts are irrational. But they feel so real at the same time. I'm not used to people sticking around. I'm only used to pain. It's a broken record. I'm a great guy who's caring and unconditional. But people take advantage of that. No one has ever had a problem with putting me through pain or screwing me over. I don't know how I can overcome this new fear. This fear hasn't affected any of my actions necessarily. But I'd love to hear any feedback you all have to offer.

 

[Tamara Rotelli]

Padfield it was very courageous if you to be so transparent with your struggles. I too am interested in feedback and strategies I can use.

 

[EveHarrington]

I advise taking it slow and engaging CBT skills. I find I can slow/stop the reaction if I can reason through things and not let my mind run away.

:hug:

 

[Tamara Rotelli]

I advise taking it slow and engaging CBT skills. I find I can slow/stop the reaction if I can rea...

Thanks!

 

[Padfield]

CBT has worked wonders for me. It's hard to practice it sometimes though!