Overeating...

[RavenGirl]

I think this happened to so many of us because food was one thing we could control in an uncontrollable life. Food gave us comfort when no one or nothing else did; that's also why it's so darn hard to break the cycle now. I mean who wants to give up the one thing that's always been there for us in our darkest hours of need! ? It's definitely a long emotional process and is going to take time. Baby steps, emotional healing first will lead to being able to give up some of the food as it's an emotional attachment we have with it. Be kind to yourself, hang in there, you are an awesome person and you can do this. :inlove: :tup:

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Agreein with rave, thats a really interesting, but quite true thing to say :)

Stickler, you will get through the weight gain, hold in the mind that it is not a permanent change, and that there is plenty of time to change that :hug:

I understand what you are going through, just now I'm starting to turn around the weight gain I had. I gained nearly 30 lbs, and now am trying to push back. :(

It will get better

 

[Booknerd]

I somewhat understand what you are going through as I used to be Huge emotional eater. I used to weig...

I think I will do the same thing. This shame from overeating is depressing

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Aaaand I gained 3 kgs in past 2 days

 

[ms spock]

I am not doing so well from this one either.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

:hug: @Ms Spock
Try setting some kind of a schedule, or, the thing that was mentioned in a thread a bit ago, a sort of a to-done list, a list of things that you did, including meals, so that you are more aware of how much you ate, that could help in getting the eating in order

I totally understand, whenever unstable, I cope with food, especially if there is not much other available

 

[RavenGirl]

I think I will do the same thing. This shame from overeating is depressing

Hope it can work for you too. Please don't shame yourself as I think you deserve better. Also we seem to have enough people willing to do that for us. By the way I think your name is awesome; as I too LOVE books. ;):hug::happy:

 

[Teasel]

Am struggling very much with this lately too. As well as other less desirable coping techniques. Most days I can't stop eating, it's not just meals but many meals and snacks and And and.

I am putting back on all the weight I lost in the last few years. I gave not been able to keep up other good habits and self care either feels out if control, I empathise and wish you all the best

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Okay, time for the first day of minimum! One banana till now, and it's 11 AM, now I gotta keep up for a few more hours. This might be a bad path, as I'm just going in the way of starving myself, but I really cannot eat better food, due to lack of it.

 

[Changing4Best]

I have been sick on and off for the last 2-3 months and I hate to deny the body something it may need during these trying times, so I have been eating when it gets hungry or wants something specific. However, I have gained 3 pounds or maybe more by now, I keep forgetting to weigh myself. UGH!

 

[Stickler]

I repressed all my CSA memories, but I think someone made a decision that I had to get fat to protect us from dad...he didn't like fat girls.

But these days, it's really just about wanting food...I think...
Well, maybe not.

The ex-guy made it clear he would find me repulsive if I kept getting fatter.
I only became attractive at 200 or less.

If I get much north of 200 nobody wants to have sex with me.
That's when I stop looking " sturdy " and just look gross, ugly, bulgy, double-chinned, flabby, flappy-armed and just yucky to most people...

Maybe subconsciously I want that?

Maybe I just want to go back to being ugly again, sexually invisible. I don't want to make the mistake of letting anyone in again, so eliminate the temptation?

 

[makibrd]

I repressed all my CSA memories, but I think someone made a decision that I had to get fat to protect u...

My dad didn't like fat girls either so i starved myself when I was younger and then when I got married... Well he was disgusted by fat people in general. Come to find out he was emotionally unavailable to me just like my father and mother and guess what??? I'm now considered morbidly obese. The food helps with the loneliness but then afterwards, I feel shame and guilt. Thanks for your post it really helps to see that others are going through the same things. Good luck to you on your journey.