General Pandora's Box Has Been Opened.

[amethist]

Hubby has been back in therapy for a couple of months now, and all his demons have been let out of the box. All the memories have come flooding out in one go.

He is struggling big time and is finding it difficult to sleep at night, so stays up for hours in his garage just pottering about, leaving me to sleep on my own. He then sleeps for hours through the day.

I am finding it hard, but am managing.

I think the worst of it is, that he now finding it hard to deal with our ailing cat on top of his own issues. He avoids her as much as possible, yet only a short while ago, they would sit together for hours on end. It is going to be hard for him if we have to make that final decision about her, but we cannot let her duffer.

 

[bell]

I'm so sorry that the box has been opened. It's so scary when it happens, yet ultimately, means progress. (It's almost a double-edged sword, really, although once it's opened and you go to therapy it gets better... although it gets worse first) :( And on top of that your dear cat! Oh no! What a tough place to be in.

Wishing you nothing but strength, resolve, and kindness.

 

[arfie]

I am never sure if I should comment in the Supporters forum. My own supporter and I think of our issues as two sides of a single coin. Integrated by nature, but not always comparable...

My memory blocks have been coming down in pieces over decades. I have never had to sort through the all-at-once flash floods, but even in my smaller increments, the flood waters of returning memories are intense, nasty business. Residuals run from toxic molds to freshly fertilized delta farmland. It is allot to sort and not all of it is trash.

gentle wishes of support as you weather the storm. Or are you in the aftermath phase?

 

[nursenurse]

I am so sorry Amethist, for your hubby, for your kitty, and for you. Sending prayers and warm wishes your way. Wish I could do more.

 

[Toria]

I have no advice I'm afraid - I do know Husband once drove round and round for an hour one time because he just couldn't face going to talk about it all. I was angry with him at the time - but it must be such a huge thing to open that box - especially if it's been shut for such a long time.

As for Cat... sending you big hugs xxx