People Just Don't Understand.

[FindingMyself88]

exactly!! What I hate even more is when someone tells you they KNOW what you are going through, but then try to give you "tough love" and say you gotta DO this! This just happened to me today! Good for you if it worked for you, but i tried just barreling through my issues and it only caused me to be worse off. Quit trying to make me feel bad and saying you are doing it because you care!

 

[shimmerz]

Tough love is the worst thing for me. A nurse advised this to a very good friend of mine while I was in the hospital - telling me that I was 'faking'. Thank god my friend knew better. She was horrified. Nobody can put into words how this feels besides us and it has to be society as we all seem to have the same type of experiences. Victimize the people who are attempting to get over their reactions to previous horrendous victimizations. PTSD in my opinion is not the mental illness; it is damage. The crassness and coldness of those who don't get it - now THAT is something that I see as an illness. I am not looking for sympathy. Empathy would be nice though.

 

[FindingMyself88]

I just posted about what was said to me tonight, I am reeling…. It's like I take one step forward in trusting again and someone shoves me 10 steps back...

 

[shimmerz]

@FindingMyself88 - so many hugs. Can you try to ground yourself knowing that there are people out here who do understand? Who honour your struggles and would give you the biggest hug EVER if that was something that you wanted? I tell you girlfriend - if I had been there and you see my avatar - I would have been your warrior. We all need that sometimes. :-)

I respect your struggles and have great respect for your trying to help yourself. That takes guts. People who attack others are cowards. I bet you couldn't be like that to someone else even if you had the choice.