People Practice - Only Increasing Anxiety

[freakofnurture]

Sometimes it feels like I simply don't like people at all.

It's no problem if someone says "Well, I just don't like cats." or "I don't like carrots." But say "I don't like humans." and you get one odd look after the other.

 

[Serophin]

I know right. Too each his/her own. lol

 

[blynn895]

I so understand you! For me, at first meeting, I am fine and can get through a social situation. I find it harder with increased interactions with people. I decide I don't like them, but I think it's a defense mechanism. If I don't invest in someone... I don't get hurt. If I don't like them first, it won't hurt when they decide they don't like me.Yet, I crave relationships. :unsure:

man this stuff makes it really hard to start relationships doesn't it?! I'm just sick of it in my own life, makes for a very lonely existence..sigh.

 

[freakofnurture]

makes for a very lonely existence..sigh.

Thing is, I don't feel lonely. At all. On the contrary. When there are other people around, I feel crowded in. Sometimes I even wish my husband would go on a vacation on his own for a while so I have our place all to myself.

 

[blynn895]

Thats how I used to feel! until I had it all to myself all the time! (we separated last year)
I like it most of the time (especially the part where HEs not here) but sometimes its too much alone time, isolate myself.

 

[freakofnurture]

@Blynn: Yeah, if it's not a choice it feels a lot different, I'm sure.

 

[anabelle]

I like most people. I spent 8 years in 12 Step groups (only groups around), had sponsors, and really opened up to them. The only people in the groups I don't like are the ones who will do nothing to change their thinking. I don't think they even hear what's worked for other people. The trouble is, after I've let someone see the real me they drop me like a hot potato. I ask them what I did wrong - what needs to be addressed, and they refuse to talk about it. I talk to my T about it, and he says they have issues about getting close. He says I did nothing wrong, but it keeps happening. I haven't gone to group now for 3 months. I just don't trust anybody to know me. I keep checking my alerts for the moderators to tell me to stay off this formum.

 

[blynn895]

oh definitely, much better to be alone by choice, and not in a lonely marriage too!

 

[SeanCharles]

I have a question for those in a relationship... Even though you aren't alone do you or do you not feel lonely sometimes? for me this is something I wrestle with even having my ESD with me at home.

After reading this thread I am realizing that I may be looking at what I am thinking is my stress bringing my anxiety up when in actuality it's my anxiety raising my stress? I work in a large retail company and I notice that while I do quite a bit of engaging with customers and co-workers, I am sure glad to come home at the end of the day. I don't know if this makes sense or not, hopefully this does.