Please Help Me Im So Scared

[hodge]

Please take good care, brokenarrow, and do find a good therapist. :hug:s

 

[anonymous]

@hodge. You have GOT to realize that you were never abused. You need to stop framing the incredibly caring people in your life as abusers, and feeding into your own panic, if you want to effectively deal with your panic attacks. What you experienced was a normal and healthy part of life. The people you keep categorizing as abusing you, are trying to help you. You need to work on trusting them, and knowing your fears have no basis in reality. Repeat after me: It's not real. Breathe. It was never real. What I'm afraid of happening never happened. Reality check.

Panic Attacks aren't all dealt with the way PTSD deals with them.

 

[hodge]

What??? How in the world can you make that judgment? You don't know my life. You don't know all the things that happened to me. I do not know where you are coming from.

 

[brokenarrow]

I really didn't mean to inspire a debate or bother anyone or anything like that. We are all seeking emotional support. I'm just trying to feel better same as everyone else.

 

[hodge]

No worries, brokenarrow.

 

[anonymous]

@brokenarrow Not offended. You're looking for help. That's a very good thing. :) It helps to look in the right places.

@hodge Sorry that wasn't clear : That's how panic attacks are dealt with in 3 disorders I know of where the cause isn't real. The very first step, before anything else, is a reality check. And then a continuing reality check throughout the process. The fears have no basis in reality. Bit different from how we deal with panic attacks in PTSD, right? Where YES. You were abused. Your abusers are not, and were not, trustworthy people who have your best interests at heart. What happened to you was not a normal and healthy part of life, but severe trauma. Etc.

 

[hodge]

Unless you've read my diary, Anonymous, you don't know what happened to me. And given your earlier statement, I'm not going to accept an apology unless you read what I've been through.

 

[hodge]

Damn, it feels good to stand up for myself.

 

[anonymous]

@hodge Trying to explain better. Can you imagine if the first statement about how none of what happened to you was real was how you were taught to deal with panic attacks?

Doesn't matter whether your trauma was abuse, rape, a car accident. If the very first step, each and every single time was "It's not real. It never happened." How do you think that would help you with your PTSD? It wouldn't, would it? In fact, it would make things worse. The same thing is true for other disorders.

You asked a question (paraphrased) : He has panic attacks, we have panic attacks, same thing, right? No.

On a general mental health forum you wouldn't see the universal "This is how to deal with panic attacks." That you see here, because we only focus on one disorder. You would see many different ways. Some which are as horribly offensive and unhelpful to PTSD as the one I posted. But they're only offensive and unhelpful taken out of context.

 

[hodge]

Oh, alright, Anonymous. Whatever. Just leave me alone. You have shown yourself to be not only unhelpful but also in attack mode. I won't suffer that. I've gotten plenty of that from my mother. I certainly never came here for more of the same.

 

[anonymous]

I honestly do not care if someone has PTSD, or not.

I DO care that people get the best care for their individual problems.

This isn't my site, and if the foundation has changed to be anyone with any problem / a feel better site, I'll STFU & never direct people to somewhere they won't be hurt by taking our treatment protocols as best practice, again. Until then, I'm sick and damn tired of hurting people. If you're here, I'm going to assume you have PTSD, may have PTSD, are learning about PTSD, or are supporting someone with PTSD.

 

[anonymous]

@hodge Okay.

I'm not in attack mode, though. I've been bawling and puking and SI / SH over wasted lives, ruined lives, and how I could have at least helped, if not saved them. Massive guilt and shame and despair. Which means I'm in save the world mode. Just one more starfish. Just one more. Probably just as unhealthy. Definitely a trauma response. And now that I'm realizing that, I think I'll take a break until I don't care about people, again.

Thank you. :) Be well.