Positive Self-talk To Manage Anxiety.

[who am i kim]

Awesome Greenfrog. ((Hug))

 

[Sailorgal]

I'm sure it won't be too convincing at first, because I'm not sure I yet believe it, but positive self-talk is a really powerful thing.

We were ill-programmed into lies and false beliefs, so it takes positive programming and conditioning to change that, just like anyone who is into sports. Repetition so that it becomes habitual and "a part of you."

 

[saffy]

Repetition so that it becomes habitual and "a part of you."

This is a good thing and I think we forget this.

I have heard that if you hear something over and over again you start to believe it.

I suppose our thoughts are negative now and so we are constantly telling ourselves negative things about ourselves and so start to believe it.

Therefore, it should and it will work in a positive way too. :)

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[Abrasky]

I tell my PTSD to F##k off. Sometimes it has helped and then I have gone to work. Does that count?

It is sort of positive because it lets my positive sides come through all the strangling horrible sides.

 

[reckoner]

So, I did indeed use the positive talk idea this morning! As soon as I woke up, still in bed, except it was more like "good for you for hitting the snooze button". This is hard to do with two young children, it's a luxury that I can most often not afford, I'm on "GO!" all day long. And of course followed it with "I am safe, it's okay, be in the moment, right now you are safe". It's very interesting but not all surprising the automatic let down that followed... a big almost sigh of relief. I'm sure my body (and mind) thank me for not starting the day in the same manner that I have been for the last nine weeks.

So I think this is going to be a really great way to start the day, it does obviously have an effect on one's state of well being. I used to wake up and run to the bathroom sink every morning, gagging and vomiting. I managed to get myself off of that ledge but I have become stuck in a really bad pattern of waking up and being on high alert and carrying that with me for the entire day. Thank you for reminding me that it is possible to gain some control back over my own thought patterns. This is a work in progress. I hope you all have a lovely day.

 

[safenow]

followed it with "I am safe, it's okay, be in the moment, right now you are safe".

That's the beginning of a good day. I'm so proud of you for doing this. Every life has a beginning and every event has an ending. We can set our own course and when others knock us off it, it is up to us to get back up and start again. You are so much farther ahead than you were when you'd have to run to the sink every morning. Right? Right!

I hope you have a great new year

 

[Deleted member 12723]

This is such a great thread. I am very happy for you Greenfrog. I hope it keeps going well for you. I will have to keep practicing postive self talk. I am greatly encouraged by all of the responses here.

 

[GreenFrog2]

Thank you for reminding me that it is possible to gain some control back over my own thought patterns

Am glad that I was able to come back to this thread that I started - it is really helpful to read what I was thinking and feeling a few weeks ago.

Thinks are pretty bad at the moment and re-reading myself and the success that others have had with positive self-talk is helping me to settle down and believe that I can do this again and get good results again!

 

[GreenFrog2]

Let us know how you go and if any of our suggestions work for you, or alternatively if you have others, as I'm sure many of us are always looking for new and novel grounding and self soothing strategies...

Well I was doing pretty good - had made some nice progress and was starting to get optimistic about having a healthy future.

Now I have fallen apart. Have been sliding down each day and am getting really frightened as anything that I try to do for myself is just causing me ti get worse.

I have had a hard week with work and am really distressed about having contacted my brothers - with no response after a week...I know they might need time to think as we have had no contact for many years. But the fact that I did this and regret it appears to have totally wiped out my ability to cope, to self-soothe, to be a little bit positive. And all the old terror monsters are back - doubt, SI, panic attacks, emotional flooding.

Any suggestions greatly appreciated.

 

[saffy]

Hi Greenfrog.

I am sorry to hear you are going through a bad patch at the moment. That sucks.

I think that you have done a very brave and mature thing trying to contact your brothers, it took strength to do that and it shows that you are the bigger and better person.

I did a similar thing with my mother and stepdad. I hadn't spoken to them for a few years, my choice. For the sake of my own children, who have a fairly good relationship with them, I tried to contact them to clear the air so we could move on in a more positive way. I was also ignored and never got a reply.

It was closure for me. I can now move on knowing that I have done the right thing.

Although it hurt and I felt rejected I was not surprised by their actions at all and it just reconfirmed my thoughts about the type of people they are.

For me I made the decision that I do not need negative people like this in my life at all and although they were 'family' they are still only people with bad attitudes and I can live without them and will.

I am sorry that this is affecting your work also. Is there anyone in your work you can talk too? HR department or anything? So that you can feel supported at work?

Please try to stop beating yourself up for others actions, God I know it is hard. I am very sensitive to things too and take things way too personally.

Think about why you actually regret writing to them, that might give you an answer too.

Best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[Sailorgal]

(((GreenFrog)))

I'm sorry to hear that you are regressing. Remember how far you've come. Remember the grounding techniques and strategies you learned. Remember that you ARE important and valuable. :)

 

[GreenFrog2]

Thanks Sailorgal - I can't really remember grounding techniques / anxiety management strategies! Far to crazy for thinking at the moment.

Thank you so much for the reminder that I am important and valuable - I have my list of positive affirmations beside the computer and I will write them down. I am going to read the list out aloud to myself!!! (again)!!!


((((Sailorgal)))))) and any one else who needs a little love today.