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amosmorris
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Very helpful, @watundah --thank you. I think one of the other patterns I've discovered among the friends I have in real life is that they are over-sharers who, though they love me very much, are so engulfed in their own drama and their own issues that they really don't have tons of time to be particularly supportive or attuned to me. And so I'm always in the role of knowing everything about everyone else and then supporting them. I think I crave the connection in some ways and, like you, need that to feel safe--but I also think it'd be new to have the experience of some sharing that didn't turn into my T oversharing and then total just flooding me with her own needs, which is for sure what I know best from both my caregivers and the friends I've cultivated. It's hard stuff. But however I spin it I just struggle--I mean I drown in--with the lack of trust around the non-disclosure stance....I do think I need more middle ground on this though I also agree I need to avoid recreating my past (who am I kidding? ongoing...) relationships too.
Anyway--everyone here has been so great--thank you so very much. :hug:
