Recent Cognitive Therapy Experience And Friendship

[watundah]

I am trying to find some order to this by reminding myself that we see each other one hour a week. That's it. Such a small snippet of time. Not sure that helps much but it may help to keep it in perspective (then let me say that this is the Hour of Power that impacts me more than anything else I do all week!!)

 

[X360pt]

@X360pt I feel so sad for you. :( I understand this too well. I lack boundarie...

It has been difficult… you mentioned a very good point about "lacking boundaries", I haven't thought about this before, it does however explain the the emotions and strong bond shown throughout the sessions to the (last).

I decided to join in order to help me, get out of the sadness of thinking I wouldn't see the T again. Through this method I am able to write down what I felt at the time and share with everyone. Knowing I am not alone and that these feelings are completely normal and it isn't me "over reacting" is very soothing and rewarding to be fair.

It will take time for me to really understand why there are these "boundaries". I do need to improve on this aspect as a person and like you said it will make perfect sense, I cannot wait to feel that, as it's painful, no matter how hard you try to forget. Writing on my daily doesn't help to (forget) as this was something he said for me to do… but it does make me feel better in a way. Today for example we went for a walk as a family, taking a similar path to the one I have been doing every Friday! i felt it.

1 of my explanations to the T was " we only have one shot, so why put a barrier to a potential future Friendship" people usually say "real friends" are numbered in one palm of your hand, so when you feel that opportunity you must not let it go. We can chose our friends, so I did, even do I kind of knew… I still done it :)

Asking the Q had my heart beating like mad hahaha I remember it very well… did it have an impact on the T? I'm sure.

Even do you didn't ask the Q, did you feel like asking it?

Reading both yours and Watundah's reply did put a smile on my face at the end I must say!

All the best and thank you for your contribution to my first thread here on the forum.

 

[X360pt]

I am trying to find some order to this by reminding myself that we see each other one hour a week. Th...

I should be working on that aspect this coming week. Whether it's seeing him the T again for one last time, organise a continuation with the same or different T. If the continuation with the same T isn't possible then perhaps a "photo" for future memory, this would be incredible.

I must add - I thankfully have a father to whom I can speak to and let go, however I only see him in the summer. And "him" the T has definitely been someone that I see as being that person I can be in my zone and relax. Being "24" probably doesn't help as I have a lot to learn still hence why this connection to have that someone I could speak to, apart from the family.

Thank you, and I wish you the best of luck with your weekly sessions as that seems to keep you going strong.

Fantastic!

 

[ms spock]

What's people's opinions on having these feelings/emotions?

Do I just need to grow up? Move on and accept we will most likely never be friends due to the circumstances?

Either way, i was referred to another department. But planning on perhaps retuning with the same therapy as I feel as do I have more to learn from it.

Self Compassion is my suggestion. http://self-compassion.org/

http://self-compassion.org/tips-for-practice/

http://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#guided-meditations

It sounds like you made a connection - good for you! That is brave!

So now be kind to yourself for that connection not being there anymore.

 

[X360pt]

Self Compassion is my suggestion

Thanks Ms Spock, just had a sneak peek at the links you sent me, and self compassion seems to be something I need to work on too.

I did make a good connection, i did not prepare myself for the latter do…

Your last sentence made me look away and take a long breath! I need to give my self time for this to grow on me.

See you around

All the best

 

[X360pt]

* Quick update - I have a review appointment next Friday :-) which means I will be able to discuss my difficulty coping with the termination of the Therapy sessions, and put the question forward in terms of returning with the same T. I am positive, just need to be patient and keep my mind active until then.

Thanks for the support everyone.