If you are still around we can talk. I can tell you how i feel about it but i cant speak for your husband.Why does that have to happen in a veterans mind?
Thank you. My focus has been on adapting to the changes brought on by the pandemic. A lot of my healthcare now is telemedicine. Ordering food etc online having it delivered. Or driving up for delivery. My health insurance has created 1 problem after the other so I have to take control away from them. I like what you said about escapist fantasies. He definitely wants to be a savior. A crisis is what worries me. I read the media during the upcoming election can manufacture images of a riot a run on banks or biden being hospitalized but none of this is. true. So people can react or overreact to false triggers. I like extra food household supplies. My husband will not change. I agree he needs to help himself but he will not. I really love this man more than anyone. My first husband died in 2012. If worse comes to worse I can't stop him. I do not want him to take our dogs. They are 2 pitbulls very loving and my documented ESAs. With them I feel safe and grounded. Thank you for your support. Appreciate knowing you have a prepper background.I think there needs to be a balance when it comes to prepping. The most important prep is psychological and communal. If you are constantly bombarding your household with yelling about the end of the world, that makes everyone tense and on-edge. If you are obsessed to the point that you lose sleep over this stuff, then you aren't stable enough to actually cope with it if it does happen.
I try to focus my efforts on preparing what I can, and developing personal skills such as martial arts, languages, engineering, wildlife survival, and getting to know the neighbors. A lot of this stuff can be split up if you know a neighbor who gardens, then you don't need to learn gardening. You can trade and share skills evenly, and that helps even just in regular day-to-day life, not just for "doomsday" scenarios.
A lot of people get obsessed with the idea of an end-of-the-world scenarios because they are mentally unwell, and believe such a thing would give them a blank slate. It allows them to get lost in escapist fantasies of being heroic and saving the day, when most likely what would happen is that they would wind up in a severe crisis, because they lack the skills to truly deal with an apocalyptic event.
Your husband has to start looking after himself, and his family. Otherwise, he's going to drag you all down before any civil war gets a chance.