Respect Chat Or Lose It Individually, Part 2

[Seasounds]

I'm glad to hear of others' experiences. It is like our conversation can lead to better use of the chat room.

 

[joeylittle]

How would you like to see it used?

I have no agenda for it. I'm not saying I don't care about it, only that I think it's like a drop-in center that runs 24/7. It's a place where people can go when they are feeling off, or low, or want to socialize, have something good to share, just want to communicate with someone.

It really works best when it needs very little policing. I do notice that members who post more on the forums are better regulated in chat. I don't know why, exactly - but I suspect it has to do with focus. When everyone in chat knows that it is a part of a bigger site, and chat is like this little break-room, where you can go for some different perspective, distraction, whatever, before you go back to the business of working on PTSD - it's more under control. When the posters are predominantly people who do not post to the forums - they are often running over the same problems they face repeatedly, because they don't have any threads to get input from.

And, the way it's always been - when people 'camp out' in chat, it turns into a problem, eventually.

So, I'd just like to see it used in conjunction with the rest of the forum.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

:tup:

 

[Rumors]

I have stopped in to chat a couple of times, but most recently when I stopped by to talk the topic was about male genitelia. I really don't want to come to a chat board to read about the size of your penis. I really find it offensive and although it didn't necessarily trigger me, I imagine others very well could have been. If chat went away entirely, it would be fine with me. I wanted to report the conversation but by the time I had gotten back, someone had "pruned chat" and I wasn't able to capture it.

 

[anthony]

someone had "pruned chat" and I wasn't able to capture it.

You don't need to capture it... it's all captured for staff to read privately. All you need to do is report the username and rough time, and staff will quickly narrow it via their own search abilities to read what happened.

 

[digger]

members who post more on the forums are better regulated in chat. I don't know why, exactly - but I suspect it has to do with focus. When everyone in chat knows that it is a part of a bigger site, and chat is like this little break-room, where you can go for some different perspective, distraction, whatever, before you go back to the business of working on PTSD - it's more under control. When the posters are predominantly people who do not post to the forums - they are often running over the same problems they face repeatedly, because they don't have any threads to get input from.

I don't know if it's been tried here before, or if it would help (I know different versions of chat have been used at different times), but one option might be to have a minimum post requirement before chat is available to members, so that people using it have already familiarised themselves with the rest of the forum and the community before using it.

The main downside to this I guess is that chat is sometimes the first point of contact for new members, but then that could also work in favour of encouraging new members to check other areas of support first.

 

[joeylittle]

It's been tried before, @digger - the problem is, it's not a real form of regulation. Someone could make x number of posts on a social thread, and still then go into chat without having been anywhere near the rest of the site.

Honestly, it's been about a year and a half since this was an issue. So, I don't know that there's a restructuring that needs to take place, so much as there is a need for a periodic reminder, like this thread.

 

[StarChild]

Hi @digger, yep, it has been tried before, you can find the reason(s) why it was lifted in the post below.

Respect Chat Or Lose It - Individually (Belongs to a former "Respect chat or lose it-thread" Oct. 21, 2014)

ETA: Ooops, I'm simply to slow with finding threads and typing. Sorry, I cross-posted @joeylittle.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

I don't think the chat room needs be be done away with or policed.
For some it might be the only socialization they get and a life line.
Many years ago during another stay in the rabbit hole I was in chat quite a bit and it was the only socialization I had other than my children who were younger and needed support from me and going into chat probably bordered on unhealthy and leaning towards addiction but it was there when I had no one else and I was glad to have it.

I hope it doesn't seem like I'm contradicting myself. Like I said before I don't know much about this forums chat room and I imagine like pretty much everything it has it's good points and bad.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Respect isnt a hard word, even for 13 yr olds. At 13, I knew very well how to show respect to others.

This is what it boils down to. Respect others, others have opinions just like you do, respect theirs just like you want yours respected, respect that the room doesnt want to read other have a make out session (I find that downright rude in general let alone on a mental health website) and respect where you are, a mental health website.

I find respect very simple; treat others like you want to be treated. You want your concerns heard so hear others, you want to have opinions so respect those of others, you dont want to be attacked and cussed at so dont do it to others.

Maybe its just me, but I find it a very simple concept.

I was at work today and saw "you triggered me". I wasnt in chat, I was on the main page and happened to look down to see that. Its also a good concept to remember that you own your triggers, another cant triggered you. You became triggered and if so, back out of chat just like if a thread or post triggered you it would be best to stop reading.

 

[Neverthesame]

@lostforgottensoul not just you. :tup:

Though sometimes I think the people who write for Webster's dictionary, should replace the word "Oxymoron" with "common sense", as the two appear to have become interchangeable. :p

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I dont know @Neverthesame i just dont understand all this stuff going on in chat. Respect is the most simple concept I can think of!