General Rewind Therapy For Carers

[helena]

I am reading up on this as much as I can - I know some of the views on this in relation to PTSD sufferers but I wonder if the system could be useful to carers.

When I get frustrated with my SO it is usually out of fear because I can see him slipping back and I know what is going to happen. I also hate myself afterwards and end up feeling like a complete failure even though it does sometimes 'shock' him out of it and he comes back (I hope carers will know what I mean, but if you have been living with this condition with your loved ones, I guess by now you know too well the shifts between sanity and madness)

What interests me about this technique is the possibility of removing the emotional response from the memory i.e. my fear/anger/reaction/terror to his behavioural change. I often 'anticipate' trauma because I know he has had a bad day and/or he is likely to be drinking heavily. I would be interested in applying this method to my own stress responses but still remaining safe - obviously stress responses are there for a reason but I am scared that I am learning to over-react more than is necessary.

I know most of you are too caught up in caring for others at the moment, but if anyone has tried this or similar coping methods I would really appreciate hearing about it.

 

[Nicolette]

Sounds interesting and that it could also be applied to one's own trauma.

 

[amethist]

Hi Helena

I used a type of rewind technique years ago, when I was going through depression myself ( stinky divorce).

I was taught, that if I got into a stress about something small that had happened through the day, and then the memories of it got blown out of proportion before going to sleep. To go back through the thoughts, in reverse order until I got back to the beginning. I would usually say to myself " Oh so that's what stared it"

I sometimes do the same thing now, when I get a bit steamed up over how my hubby is acting.

Then I think " So that is why I reacted like that, waste of time really "

Hope this is what you meant and if it is, that it helps you.

 

[helena]

Rewind therapy is fairly well known in the UK because of a famous hypnotherapist who uses it.

He shows how to do it on tv so no one really has to pay to receive a demonstration (though I suppose it is more powerful to attend a session)

Basically, you 'rewind' the incident, imagine you're watching it on a tv screen but back to front, speed it up etc. Whatever emotion arises as you watch it, give it a colour - spin it, let it spin out of your body, look at it, change the colour and then let it back in again.

I realise that has made it very simplistic, but the tv hypnotist has no problem in letting the uk public have this info for free so I guess I am okay giving this to you?

 

[amethist]

Now you put it this way I know who you are talking about, nice guy, glasses, bit thin on top, first name Paul. I saw him do this on TV myself once.

I have though about getting in contact with him to try and help my hubby, but then I though maybe a bit over the top with that idea.

But anything goes when you are at your wits end sometimes.

Amethist

 

[helena]

You got him!

I have always wanted to see him for myself - public speaking (which I have to do but hate) and have constantly thought if only he could see me partner...

Anyway, thought I would share this info because I saw earlier posts about it

Helena