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T has me researching how to change my negative self talk because its atrocious (I had to erase a few more describing words, perhaps I am already being nicer to myself!)
we can remedy negative self talk (self loathing etc) with self-compassion
I liked this website
also to add, worksheets to print free (on that link) which I'm printing next.
for my T homework I am sharing with you so please discuss with me!
notes:
self criticism tends to hold people in place/ keep from moving forward, but it is necessary for self-judgement. (done something wrong need to change)
or-
we believe the thoughts we think, but we must "hold every thought captive" and decide if the thought is true/stays -or- its a lie (ie. Im bad because the trauma response I am having or I am sick etc.) trash it. let it go its not good and not for our healing or better health.
self loathing (to me) sounds like a waste of time and we ought to try harder to accept love to ourselves if we want to get on to the next parts of healing.
self-examination (judgement) is rooted in self criticism and self compassion is choosing to respond to difficulty with understanding and love, instead of with negativity and self criticism.
(self criticism rooted negatively, self-compassion rooted positively)
*I've had trouble even referring to myself because I want to be overlooked. why?*
how I plan to increase self compassion
1. be aware of self- critical moments, pay attention to self
2. be aware what initiates self criticism
emotions guilt, shame, insecurity spark self-loathing and by paying attention to self-critical moments we then can edit our thoughts to believing what we want/need to believe or whats true.
[my real life example: I feel guilty and insecure that the 10+ people in my home saw me in my underwear (essentially). I'm married and I do not let people see me that way. had it been a swimming pool and not my living room maybe I would have been okay but they weren't supposed to be in my home at that hour, and I felt raped with their eyes.
self compassion view: I saw lots of law enforcement, guns, bust down door things, people guns drawn also pointing around my house going in my back yard. shouting. I opened the door expecting them to tell me they were chasing someone in the woods behind my house! Oh no!. i was wrong. that's it. I assumed they weren't there for me, and they weren't. so I'm actually gonna stop feeling guilty and naked and ashamed. once I have corrected it enough. but in the past. I felt like dirty (still do if i'm honest) for them seeing me like that. & THEY WOULDN'T LET ME PUT A SHIRT ON ;( that hurt more than anything. its nothing I need to feel weird when I'm naked about but this will take time. i know in my heart they probably werent looking at me like that also. see self compassion allows the healing to flow! woohoo!
we need self-forgiveness as well
if anyone is interested in a Bible study on love & forgiveness please let me know, I used to run a blog full of studies, prayers, & devotionals shared with many across the world.
so recap
we feel the emotions guilt, shame, insecurity, and respond in a loving way
its not LOVING OF self ( against my beliefs )but LOVING TO SELF (aligns with my beliefs)
GIVE YOURSELF LOVE & FORGIVENESS ESPECIALLY OVER SOMETHING YOU DIDN'T DO
'
all of this is for me too and I request please if you will respond- do not argue with me.
some of the thoughts I shared here are not from the link above but a lot of the information is (mods is this good with copyright issues?)
(question: Did I traumatize myself?)
this is my best for now and I hope to learn a lot more
we can remedy negative self talk (self loathing etc) with self-compassion
I liked this website
also to add, worksheets to print free (on that link) which I'm printing next.
for my T homework I am sharing with you so please discuss with me!
notes:
self criticism tends to hold people in place/ keep from moving forward, but it is necessary for self-judgement. (done something wrong need to change)
or-
we believe the thoughts we think, but we must "hold every thought captive" and decide if the thought is true/stays -or- its a lie (ie. Im bad because the trauma response I am having or I am sick etc.) trash it. let it go its not good and not for our healing or better health.
self criticism is balanced through self-compassion!
self criticism is balanced through self-compassion!
self criticism is balanced through self-compassion!
self criticism is balanced through self-compassion!
self loathing (to me) sounds like a waste of time and we ought to try harder to accept love to ourselves if we want to get on to the next parts of healing.
self-examination (judgement) is rooted in self criticism and self compassion is choosing to respond to difficulty with understanding and love, instead of with negativity and self criticism.
(self criticism rooted negatively, self-compassion rooted positively)
*I've had trouble even referring to myself because I want to be overlooked. why?*
how I plan to increase self compassion
1. be aware of self- critical moments, pay attention to self
2. be aware what initiates self criticism
emotions guilt, shame, insecurity spark self-loathing and by paying attention to self-critical moments we then can edit our thoughts to believing what we want/need to believe or whats true.
[my real life example: I feel guilty and insecure that the 10+ people in my home saw me in my underwear (essentially). I'm married and I do not let people see me that way. had it been a swimming pool and not my living room maybe I would have been okay but they weren't supposed to be in my home at that hour, and I felt raped with their eyes.
self compassion view: I saw lots of law enforcement, guns, bust down door things, people guns drawn also pointing around my house going in my back yard. shouting. I opened the door expecting them to tell me they were chasing someone in the woods behind my house! Oh no!. i was wrong. that's it. I assumed they weren't there for me, and they weren't. so I'm actually gonna stop feeling guilty and naked and ashamed. once I have corrected it enough. but in the past. I felt like dirty (still do if i'm honest) for them seeing me like that. & THEY WOULDN'T LET ME PUT A SHIRT ON ;( that hurt more than anything. its nothing I need to feel weird when I'm naked about but this will take time. i know in my heart they probably werent looking at me like that also. see self compassion allows the healing to flow! woohoo!
we need self-forgiveness as well
if anyone is interested in a Bible study on love & forgiveness please let me know, I used to run a blog full of studies, prayers, & devotionals shared with many across the world.
so recap
we feel the emotions guilt, shame, insecurity, and respond in a loving way
its not LOVING OF self ( against my beliefs )but LOVING TO SELF (aligns with my beliefs)
GIVE YOURSELF LOVE & FORGIVENESS ESPECIALLY OVER SOMETHING YOU DIDN'T DO
'
all of this is for me too and I request please if you will respond- do not argue with me.
some of the thoughts I shared here are not from the link above but a lot of the information is (mods is this good with copyright issues?)
(question: Did I traumatize myself?)
this is my best for now and I hope to learn a lot more