Sex As A Coping Tool?

[Ymoyhw]

Do you use it as such or not really? Why or why not?

 

[Uveva]

No. Sex is triggering. It's the antithesis of a coping tool for me.

 

[Voluhe]

Yes. Its how i feel loved and wanted. I massive search for it intensely coming on to about everyone.

 

[Ymoyhw]

Yes. Its how i feel loved and wanted. I massive search for it intensely coming on to about everyone.

Even if it's just casual?

 

[Lerer]

Yep. Grounding. Stress relief. Exercise. Connection.

 

[Icab]

Even if it's just casual?

Casual sex is all i have...and a shit ton of it. Unhealthy for sure.

 

[Powiwo]

@ymoyhw

I am or have been sexually avoidant. At times I use sexual fantasy to keep the deep pain inside the shame away.

Being a member of SLAA forba while helped me get clarity around my sexual behaviours and their being part of CPTSD.

 

[Edo]

Yes, sex helps me avoid what I'm feeling or thinking.

But love-making? Connection? No can do! Start that and I check out.

 

[Keduz]

Grounding. Stress relief. Exercise. Connection.

I should have said that's (coping mechanism) not all sex is to me. It can be many other things, as well. But as a coping mechanism for PTSD? Yep. In those 4 main areas.

 

[Jisico]

Hmmm. I cope better when I'm having sex bug with me I have to feel connected to the person. Casual src - even the thought of it - makes me want to die.
It's weird though as for a while after having been abused sexually I was the other way around. But I couldn't be alone back then so anything to not be alone seemed like a good idea!
But now....nope.

 

[Aparin]

I don't use sex as a coping tool just the opposite I use it to punish my self for my abuse I have been single for 11 years and prefer to attempt celibacy because otherwise I revert to risky sexual behaviors.

 

[Bafof]

I feel like if I could get to a place where I could have sex, it might be helpful for alleviating stress. But the thought of putting myself on the market is so triggering. I'm pulverized from rejection and it comes up as soon as I see someone attractive--they instantly turn into him. I was also slut-shamed years ago, and I have this sense that I'm dirty and used and not good enough for any decent man. I can't even get past the fear enough to have a sexual fantasy that isn't constantly interrupted by, "dirty," "go away," "undesirable," "gutter slut," "ugly." It's like, Ok, nevermind, I'll go back to work now.