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Sorry I Have Not Been Here, My Husband Finally Died At Home.
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Gizmo, I wish you much peace and healing of your heart. I hope you adjust smoothly to this new chapter of your life. HUGS
BlackbirdSinging
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I'm sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family. Big hugs to you Gizmo.
Welcome back Gizmo. I am sorry to hear about your husband's passing. I am happy to hear about your daughter getting the restraining order. You have had so much on your plate lately and your husband was so lucky to have you to take care of him. It will take a while to get into a new routine. I am sure you are probably in need of much physical and mental rest after what you have been through.
Take care and sending you lots of positive energy your way.
Take care and sending you lots of positive energy your way.
Whitneys story
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Gizmo, Oodles of hugs and love! He is with the Angels now. And will always be by your side.
Please take care of you. Behemoth Hugs, Whitney
Please take care of you. Behemoth Hugs, Whitney
HëllaBubz
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Hi Gizmo,
I know that you've been through a hard time recently, but extending my apologies doesn't sound right either.
Despite the passing of your friend and husband, I would like to extend my congratulations on the celebration of his life, and that he is not in pain or suffering any longer.
As someone who worked almost exclusively in high care dementia and palliative care, I understand that it is very hard on the family that deal with and care for someone with that illness.
The feat of few to no falls or injury is not one to be dismissed lightly, and I am immensely proud of you for your diligence over the years in caring for him.
Please allow me to also pass on my pleasure at the improved circumstances of your extended family members, and also that you are in an accepting stage that allows you to take care of yourself now, after being such a selfless partner for so long.
Even though it is obvious that you are adjusting to loss and forms of grief, it is wonderful that you are experiencing relief and lessened anxiety, it is something you deserve, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I wish you the very best in the beginning of your new chapter, and to the stable and safe life with your daughters and family.
Lots of love,
Bubzie
I know that you've been through a hard time recently, but extending my apologies doesn't sound right either.
Despite the passing of your friend and husband, I would like to extend my congratulations on the celebration of his life, and that he is not in pain or suffering any longer.
As someone who worked almost exclusively in high care dementia and palliative care, I understand that it is very hard on the family that deal with and care for someone with that illness.
The feat of few to no falls or injury is not one to be dismissed lightly, and I am immensely proud of you for your diligence over the years in caring for him.
Please allow me to also pass on my pleasure at the improved circumstances of your extended family members, and also that you are in an accepting stage that allows you to take care of yourself now, after being such a selfless partner for so long.
Even though it is obvious that you are adjusting to loss and forms of grief, it is wonderful that you are experiencing relief and lessened anxiety, it is something you deserve, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I wish you the very best in the beginning of your new chapter, and to the stable and safe life with your daughters and family.
Lots of love,
Bubzie
CrazyHorse
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I am so sorry for you loss Gizmo! I wish you and your family all my best!
Eleanor
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Hi Gizmo,
Thank you for the update. You've been coping with an awful lot for a long time. I am glad you are getting a bit of a break from the anxiety at least! I am glad your daughter is doing well, and that the restraining order came through and the guns are no longer an issue! HURRAH!!!! Some days, the good guys win.:tup:
I don't know how one adjusts to the death of a beloved spouse. I imagine it is extremely complicated and confusing. I always find the death of a loved one not only painful, but confusing. I am sometimes still surprised and have to think "Oh, I can't call so and so and tell her..." When someone has been part of your world for so long their just being gone is very disorienting.
When my cousin in law died after a longish fight with cancer, my cousin said to me a few days later, "I haven't cried all that much. Mostly what I feel is relieved. Does that make me a bad person?" The answer was, of course, NO, that doesn't make you a bad person. He had been dealing with the fear and uncertainty and being the primary care give for so long, and she had taken the approach that she was not dying... and on and on, and anyhow he was just worn out. Relief was what was going on. Her hospice nurse said to me, after she was gone, that "Everybody prays for healing. And sometimes what they get is the final healing. And that is ok too." Which always still makes me cry. There was a LOT of healing in that house, and I hope there is a lot in yours as well.
Much love to you and your family gizmo. You all deserve a long long stretch of quiet R&R.
Thank you for the update. You've been coping with an awful lot for a long time. I am glad you are getting a bit of a break from the anxiety at least! I am glad your daughter is doing well, and that the restraining order came through and the guns are no longer an issue! HURRAH!!!! Some days, the good guys win.:tup:
I don't know how one adjusts to the death of a beloved spouse. I imagine it is extremely complicated and confusing. I always find the death of a loved one not only painful, but confusing. I am sometimes still surprised and have to think "Oh, I can't call so and so and tell her..." When someone has been part of your world for so long their just being gone is very disorienting.
When my cousin in law died after a longish fight with cancer, my cousin said to me a few days later, "I haven't cried all that much. Mostly what I feel is relieved. Does that make me a bad person?" The answer was, of course, NO, that doesn't make you a bad person. He had been dealing with the fear and uncertainty and being the primary care give for so long, and she had taken the approach that she was not dying... and on and on, and anyhow he was just worn out. Relief was what was going on. Her hospice nurse said to me, after she was gone, that "Everybody prays for healing. And sometimes what they get is the final healing. And that is ok too." Which always still makes me cry. There was a LOT of healing in that house, and I hope there is a lot in yours as well.
Much love to you and your family gizmo. You all deserve a long long stretch of quiet R&R.
Lionheart
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(((((((Gizmo))))))),
I am truly sorry for your loss and yet I'm happy that your husband passed peacefully. I wish you all the love, comfort, and healing your heart and mind can hold.
:hug:
Lion
I am truly sorry for your loss and yet I'm happy that your husband passed peacefully. I wish you all the love, comfort, and healing your heart and mind can hold.
:hug:
Lion
Chincho
Diamond Member
(((((Gizmo)))))
I'm sorry for your loss. I missed you.
I'm sorry for your loss. I missed you.
therapybankrupt
Diamond Member
Gizmo you have been missed! Welcome back!
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