Suicide...banned...dead..can Someone Update Me About She Cat....

[pandora]

I get that she was suicidal and not talking correctly, obviously not in the right frame of mind..but it was her diary to vent.....does anyone know if in fact she is alive. I read her last post and then she got banned for being so suicidal, just wondered how she got help here if she had no one to talk to? I am sure others have vented and I get it is the wrong thing to do but it also looked like she was reaching out for help here on the forum and got turned away. I am not trying to offend you Anthony and I know i don't know the whole story but can someone, anyone please tell me if they have spoken to her as her profile says dead...is that for real? Can someone please update me...i have been gone forever. Now I just feel worried and wish I was here at that time so at least someone might have been there for her...

 

[Nicolette]

Wendy was given 2 or 3 chances to return after a break from banning, for various time frames, & either came back aggressive or suicidal. Anthony has now permanently banned her.

"Dead" was the last mood Wendy chose and does not directly relate to what has happened to her.

Sorry I can offer any more insight and appreciate your concern for Wendy.

 

[pandora]

Is there any chance he will remove the ban if and when she maybe gets back into the correct state of mind...kind of sounded like she really needed some additional support....I know the suicide talk is not right but she obviously was not in the right frame of mind and obviously going through a very bad time. Do you think he might lift it if she agrees to stop with the nonsense talk?

 

[Nicolette]

How many chances do you think is a fair number - she's definitely had 2 if not 3?

How can she guarantee she wont slip back into past habits? For what reason should she be treated differently, than in accordance to the rule applied to members across the board, other than her being your friend?

Anthony makes the decisions; staff have to abide by them. I liked Wendy too. She was given a lot of rope.............

We can't treat one member differently to others unless we want mayhem to break out.

Didn't some of you communicate outside of the forum prior to the ban? Can't you still keep in contact that way?

Getting back to the facts though - Anthony said NO and that its not up for debate. I'm only the messenger here as those are his words.

 

[ronin47]

See, now this is why I make a point of not reading people's trauma diaries, there's a tendency for things like that to come out.

 

[Nicolette]

Ronin, posting whilst suicidal is not even permitted in trauma diaries and if you come across any such posts they should be reported as they hold the potential to upset other members unnecessarily in an unproductive way.

As there is no decision making to be further entered into in relation to this matter this thread will be closed.

 

[anthony]

Wendy has had more than 2 - 3 chances... she has pushed most of her friends from here away as well. Whilst Wendy is ill and needs help, this forum has limited capacity of how far it can support any person vs. taking many down with them in their period of illness. As stated above, I will not ever be allowing Wendy back to this forum, regardless her condition at any point.

Everyone has a choice, and that choice includes not coming onto this forum in moments of anger, despair and suicide, then unleashing it upon staff or members.