Talking about "personal" matters during therapy

[GettingBetter]

I have decided to return to therapy. But I'm stuck on what kind of therapist, and what it will look like. About 90% of my issues are sexual/related. I found someone who does sex therapy, individual therapy, and EMDR so it should be a good fit. But I just don't think I'll ever feel comfortable enough to talk about these personal details.

 

[MrMoonlight]

Sounds like you have a great plan. I see a good trauma therapist and we are doing EMDR together. This therapy may suit you right now because when doing EMDR you don't necessarily need to tell the therapist any details. I think there are some youtube videos that detail the process. It's the only therapy I can speak to because I've only just begun myself.

It's just terrific you are looking to heal a bit through therapy. It's courageous and you have every right to be proud of yourself.

 

[Still Standing]

Yes, MrMoonlight, is correct. If you do EMDR, you do not have to give a lot of detail while doing it. When it comes time to deal with my sexual abuses, I have no intention of sharing details. It is enough to simply know it happened. I will deal with it doing EMDR.

 

[Freida]

You will talk when you are ready -- you don't need to rush. It took me over a year to even start talking with my T about some of my stuff, and another 2 before we got into gory details. Something I will never share - that's what emdr is for.

One thing I found recently is that saying some things out loud --when i was ready---made me feel better because I realized it wasn't' my fault. But that was a long way in after a ton of trust had been built with my T

 

[EveHarrington]

Sex therapy isn’t usually geared toward trauma survivors, at least not on the level that we need.

Does this person deal with trauma?

 

[GettingBetter]

Sex therapy isn’t usually geared toward trauma survivors, at least not on the level that we nee...

The T does brainspotting, somatization, and EMDR, so I'd say so!

 

[Changing4Best]

I sometimes do abstract paintings that I then write on the back of to express stuff like that to my T. I have her keep them in my file there, as I don't want anyone who comes into my environment to read them. Sometimes I also just write stuff out without a painting.