Chris-duck
Policy Enforcement
I view my relationship with my therapist as a medical professional helping me with an issue, trust obviously exists in the sense where I decide whether I'll let a doc/nurse do my smear test or a T hear about my trauma, but in essence, it's really all the same to me. A "do I trust this person to be professional and be competent?" I understand how it is more complicated in a T relationship, but IMO, it's also not. It is a professional doing a job and my main concern is whether they can do it well. I don't ever feel the need for a proper personal attachment. I have pretty healthy attachments with my friends and have a solid support network, so I dunno if that has anything to do with it.
What I find interesting though is that the only person I've seen having semi-similar views is @Friday (sorry friday, I only vaguely remember the idea of a post you made ages ago, I was just like huh same mate so I accept you may not fully agree!) And even assuming that agreement, my specific trauma is meant to *need* a different type of relationship with my therapist. I have healthy relationships with my friends, appropriate relationships with my colleagues, I don't need healthy relationships modelled to me at this point in my life.
So yeah, I am worried that my view of therapeutic relationships is uh, untherapeutic.. And I have thought a lot about it and decided that I probably won't ever trust anybody the way I'm expected to, and I am happy with that, and it doesn't interfere with my therapy goals and I'm honest about it with my T. I don't need healthy relationships modelled to me, because I see them and I'm part of them.
But yeah, hit me with a summary of how you see your T/therapeutic relationship. Do you think it depends on type of trauma? (I do, yet somehow, don't quite identify with people with similar trauma, f*cked if I know why), just yah. Say whatever you think is applicable here.
What I find interesting though is that the only person I've seen having semi-similar views is @Friday (sorry friday, I only vaguely remember the idea of a post you made ages ago, I was just like huh same mate so I accept you may not fully agree!) And even assuming that agreement, my specific trauma is meant to *need* a different type of relationship with my therapist. I have healthy relationships with my friends, appropriate relationships with my colleagues, I don't need healthy relationships modelled to me at this point in my life.
So yeah, I am worried that my view of therapeutic relationships is uh, untherapeutic.. And I have thought a lot about it and decided that I probably won't ever trust anybody the way I'm expected to, and I am happy with that, and it doesn't interfere with my therapy goals and I'm honest about it with my T. I don't need healthy relationships modelled to me, because I see them and I'm part of them.
But yeah, hit me with a summary of how you see your T/therapeutic relationship. Do you think it depends on type of trauma? (I do, yet somehow, don't quite identify with people with similar trauma, f*cked if I know why), just yah. Say whatever you think is applicable here.