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@ Alby - I agree with Deb. We have to counter the negatives somehow, otherwise they will take over! I have read recently that using purely positive talk (I am good. I deserve good things.) can backfire because our minds will say "I don't believe that. That isn't true." So it causes our negative minds to become defensive. I have found this experience to happen to me.

What I think is better is to try to stick to logic. Try to take the emotion out of the situation. What did I do right? Where did I make mistakes? What did I learn from this? Then applaud oneself for the positive steps forward.

Also, to not use general positive mantras, but put in their something like, "Although I messed up when I did ___________, I am still a good person. I still try to do the right things. I still work hard to improve myself. I still love and accept myself despite the mistakes I made."

I hope this helps. This is what I am trying to do right now. I have just started Day 3. This is where I have messed up in the past. Hopefully today will be better! :)
 
Daisygirl,

That is it exactly!!! It isn't about "pep talking" ourselves (although at times that is needed), but recognizing cognitive distortions and negative thinking patterns and logically working towards changing them.

Deb
 
Starting at day one, for about the fourth time today. But at least I keep trying to stay on top of it. The funny part is how different events, people, holidays, or days of the week impact the amount of negativity.

It seems to get worse towards the end of the week. Not only am I worn out physically, but the pain is worse. It think that wears me down mentally and makes it easier to slip into the negativity. Plus it is another holiday, and nothing is like I thought it would be.
 
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