Dom Violence Watching Mom Get Beaten

[ReachingOutJ]

I also witnessed one of my mother's boyfriends hitting her, after I had been raped and beaten by her ex husband. I ran away from home because of it.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

My mother was raped in front of me when I was about 3 years old, by one of my dad's friends. I just have small fragments of memory of the incident.

 

[SeanCharles]

I agree that domestic violence memories, especially, are hard for kids (and the adults they become) to assimilate, and to process or move on from.

So sad, yet so true. I am struggling with this in so many ways. The deeper I seem to be digging (or tearing away onion layers) The more strong negative emotions are surfacing. I know with time though that I will move through this very painful and emotional yet not unbreakable chain.

I completely empathize fully with various victims, survivors and thrivors of this horrible type of violence that people inflict regardless of the reasons. This definitely is something I am in many ways am exploring and examining as this is definitely striking a variety of emotional and tears my spirit which has endured greatly.

 

[SeanCharles]

Every time there's something sensational on the news about someone being choked (like recently)... An ind...

This sounds very similar to or almost defines the latin translation of what sarcasm is and does. My mom on a few occasions mentions to me that the sarcasm translates to the tearing of flesh.

I have to wonder... Does Factious equate the same?

 

[Freedomfighter]

My earliest childhood memories are of my mother being beaten and verbally abused in front of my brother a...

You can tell those violent people from a mile away after a while. I can now identify such sickos right away. Work at a retail store, and this ugly dwarf of a man walks up to me and wants to start a ridiculous argument about how to get rid of ants. The aggressive way he used to immediately get into an argument showed me right away that an abusive entity was standing in front of me. Very ugly little useless entities that interrupt my life in order to feel good about themselves.

That is what predators do, they intentionally hurt others to feel good about themselves. Since my abusive ex had similar traits I was triggered right away by this ugly behavior. Many times I do not want to know what a person like that is capable of, no do not want to know.

 

[Rumors]

My first memories are of my mom and dad fighting and my dad hitting her and throwing her down the stairs. I can still hear what his hand ricocheting off her face sounds like. I was about 3. I can remember running in and trying to break it up. I threw stuff at him and screamed. It happened multiple times throughout my childhood. It wasn't until recently that I realized it wasn't normal and not all people beat on each other. I married a man that is verbally abusive at times. He doesn't hit me, but he can make me feel pretty awful in two sentences.
I think you have to get that stuff out or you will struggle with it forever. It awful, horrible information. However, don't hold it in....

 

[foreveralone2099]

The violence is somehow inside of me still. I don't beat things or people, I am not unkind verbally, or deliberately hurtful to others, or misdirect my anger...I am very careful with how I treat others, yet somehow I can feel the violence sitting in my body like a silent, heavy, spirit. It's not something I direct outwards, it's just there taking up space...and hurting me still.

not to hijack the thread but i thought this was beautifully put.

as i grow older i know how to calm my emotions, but i'm afraid that one day my propensity for these two may turn against me; although they were the violent ones then others will point their finger and say, "look, this is the one who is out of control & crazy".

i must remain ever-placid so no one will say these things. it's a lot of work! sometimes when i'm around others my language touches sardonically on the ugly side of life, which i worry is also perceived as a certain sort of callousness, the dangerous untrustworthy kind.