General What are they thinking?

[Never_falter2]

Hey, cannot really contribute. Apart from telling my Vet has endless list and reminders so that he always knows what to do in the next days. He found it very helpful.

But I have two questions: 1. I am not sure if I truly what dissociation is. Vet says he doesn’t have it but if he doesn’t notice that he is hungry or cold or tired or hurt (and only notices if he is done with his task)... is it dissociation?

2. Is it okay to discuss suicide (a “celebrities“ suicide) with Vet?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Does he have trauma around suicides? Or a history of being suicidal? How’s he do with death otherwise?

 

[Never_falter2]

He is actually afraid that people will commit suicide because of him which sometimes in turn makes him feel suicidal.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Hmmm... I’d give it a pass then. Usually if something is touchy to my Vet I let him bring it up unless it’s something important.

 

[Freida]

Vet says he doesn’t have it but if he doesn’t notice that he is hungry or cold or tired or hurt (and only notices if he is done with his task)... is it dissociat

Could be. The idea behind dissociation is that you kind of check out so you don't have to deal with what's going on around you. But it's more of an avoidance thing....so if he's just ignoring that he's hungry it might be that he hyper focuses. It's a good question for him to bring up to his t

As for suicide stuff? I think if he brings it up its ok. But if you do he might think you have an ulterior motive

 

[lostforgottensoul]

But I have two questions: 1. I am not sure if I truly what dissociation i

Dissociation is a spectrum that everyone does. Take day dreaming which is on one end of that spectrum.

So, for me, I am just gone. An entire day can go by and I am gone, mentally and lost in my head. Day dreaming times 1,000. Like deep day dreaming.

DID or Dissociation Identity Disorder is the opposite end of that spectrum. Where there are alters. Actual seperate personailites that have forumed inside of the suffer's mind that make up a system. There is amenisa when switching between alters.

That can be confusing but think of day dreaming as one end of the spectrum and DID the other end. The there is an entire range of disocciation occuring inside of that spectrum. Much deeper then day dreaming but not as deep as DID for most PTSD suffers. Some PTSD suffers have DID but for those that do not, they are in the middle some where.

Does that make sense?

Is it okay to discuss suicide (a “celebrities“ suicide) with Ve

Sure. If it's ok with him. But it may not be. It's not for me. I cannot speak when suicidal. I can type but cannot speak a word.

 

[Freida]

@lostforgottensoul that was a great explanation!

 

[GGG]

I have a few questions for sufferers. Do you ever miss someone so much that you’ll reach out? Do you even have the ability to long and miss someone or do you just use emotional avoidance to cope? Or are you just emotionally flat?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Do you ever miss someone so much that you’ll reach out?

Depends on what mental state I am in at the time.

Do you even have the ability to long and miss someone or do you just use emotional avoidance to cope?

Yes, we have the ability to long for and miss someone. Badly! We can and do reach out, when we can. If we get our hand bit too much, we may stop reaching out. But we can and do reach out the only ways we know how to at the time.

Or are you just emotionally flat

Sometimes we are emotionally flat. But not always. We have emotions, just like everyone else.

 

[GGG]

@lostforgottensoul thank you for your response! Is it then safe to say if he’s not reaching out, he isn’t missing me much?

 

[EveHarrington]

I cannot speak when suicidal. I can type but cannot speak a word.

OH THANK GOD!

It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

Nobody has ever been able to understand why I can’t speak but I can type.

 

[Freida]

. Do you ever miss someone so much that you’ll reach out?

it really depends on where I'm at emotionally and what happened to separate us. Bestie? She and I can go months without talking when I'm in a mood and when I finally reach out it's like we never missed a beat.
other people I may miss but it's not worth the drama to contact them because I won't feel as guilty as they want me too.

? Do you even have the ability to long and miss someone or do you just use emotional avoidance to cope

yes and yes. If I miss someone I'll avoid thinking about them or feeling. It's just easier.

e! Is it then safe to say if he’s not reaching out, he isn’t missing me much?

Possibly ...but not necessarily like you are thinking. When I'm in that numb place it doesn't occur to me that I'm missing someone. That's the tough part to explain.... Numb means just....numb. I know I still love hubby but I just don't feel it at the time. So it doesn't even cross my mind that something is wrong. And if he tries to point it out it just confuses me...which pisses me off and makes me back away because it feels like I'm being blamed for something I don't understand.

It's gotten better after years of therapy but it's still tough.