What Have You Done For Your Supporter/s Lately.

[EvenStrongerNow]

For my husband, my supporter, imo the greatest person in the Universe :D

I pray and thank God for him every night. I ask God to bless him for being a great husband and friend to me.

I thank him daily for being the man he is and all that he does for me.

I fight to remain present for him when he needs me to listen to his heart and the stress he faces.

I remind myself constantly that he loves me and will never abandon me because I know how much it hurt him in the past to think I did not believe those things.

I do his laundry, clean the house so he does not have to come home to it after working so hard all day.

I watch football with him and get excited even though it does not interest me.

I ask him how his day was, listen to his macho business stories and ask questions to show interest in what he loves.

I massage him and tickle his back when he struggles to sleep after a stressful day.

I find every opportunity to encourage him, show him that I love him, and celebrate his man-ness.

I always admit when I am wrong even if it sucks and I am completely transparent with him no matter how difficult it seems at times.

And I always tell him to never change who he is because of my PTSD. I tell him consistently to NEVER walk on egg shells around me or enable me. I NEVER blame him for any part of my PTSD and I remain consistent in working on myself.

I love my husband so much! *tear*

 

[Lionheart]

My sister and my forum friends are my biggest supporters. I try to help my sister with cleaning the home and helping take care of our mother. I tell her I love her everyday and let her know how much I appreciate all that she does for me. As for my forum friends, I am trying to become more active on the forums and be more supportive. I am grateful for all of the support and encouragement I receive here and I say so often.

 

[saoirserylyn]

@Ms Spock I really love your idea with the box of cards and having them to give even when things are tough to show them we appreciate them. I think I am going to execute something like this for future events.

This past week I woke up a little early to give my brother rides to work. He really needed the help and after all he has done for me, it felt nice to get him back.

 

[ms spock]

@Lionheart you do indeed. It is lovely.

 

[ms spock]

@Ms Spock I really love your idea with the box of cards and having them to give even when things are tough to show them we appreciate them. I think I am going to execute something like this for future events.

If you write on them before you have a bad patch then you don't have to try and think during your bad patch but you have so much gratitude and appreciation for your supporter - possibly will make them feel a little better.

 

[ms spock]

Mentioning good things from the past that B has done. (The opposite of bringing up bad things from the past.)

Giving him praise for how he looks after his father. He gets embarrassed and changes the topic but he sounds pleased.

 

[KP the nut]

I'm making an effort to do things with Hubby, rather than sticking my nose in a book. We have started playing darts again, although in my case I play very badly but it is fun.

 

[The Albatross]

Been "not the problem"

 

[EvenStrongerNow]

Last night, I went and helped do the grocery shopping with my hubby even though I hate going to the grocery store. Instead of getting stressed out and wanting to leave before we were done, I used the coping skills I learned to ground myself. I also grabbed him right in the middle of the store and kissed him passionately right in front of everyone lol He was surprised and thrilled. A man walking by said, "Oh goodness! You are so much in love. That is so beautiful to see!" :D

 

[ms spock]

Been "not the problem"

Hey me too! And I didn't even realise that.

 

[ms spock]

Dealing with my issues in other ways and ringing B to tell him good stuff.

Though I did complain a bit last night and he said there are an endless supply of idiots and you have to walk away at times. I thanked him.

I didn't ring him during the day yesterday as it was the day his Dad goes to daycare so I wanted him to have the day on his own uninterrupted.

 

[Dendrite]

@Ms Spock

What a great thread.

My wife is the most wonderful person. She is a gift from heaven and I feel blessed to know her. I built her a special craft shed to celebrate an important milestone in her life. She meditates in there and makes soap etc. I even ask her if its okay to visit when she's in there as I want her to feel its her haven.

I also recently told my father in law how very special he was to me and that I love him very much. We had a very special chat on the phone and also when he visited on Christmas Day.

I have a few of other friends too who I have recently thanked for the gift of their love.

Yay supporters. We love you and bow and thank all that is good in this world for your care.