What Have You Done For Your Supporter/s Lately.

[ms spock]

Actively listening to B. Encouragement on B's projects. Listening reflectively to him. Complimenting on how well he is looking after his father with dementia. Noticing when he is doing clever and interesting things - he is always coming up with good solutions and lateral thinking.

He is rather bright and have interesting ways of thinking about things.

 

[Dendrite]

I also wanted to publicly recognise one of the greatest men I have ever known, my coach from my childhood/young adult athletics club. He taught me a great deal about life; how to relate to women, how to care for someone who is unwell, how to be contrite, how to bring good hearted people into your life etc. Those days when we sat in his car before training and chatted about life were deeply special to me. He was one of those people that every young person felt completely safe with. One of the few like that in my life at the time.

I love you D. I miss you a great deal but nothing can take the memories away from my heart.

Thanks for supporting me and believing in me. If it wasn't for you, J, M, I and a few others, I would have left this life like my brother, troubled and too soon.

 

[ms spock]

I sent B a present of one of my drawings from the last exhibition that I was in.

 

[ms spock]

Being touched by the two times in the last couple of days that B has listened to me and actively wanted to know how I am going. Respecting now he is back into elder/Dad care and has no brain space at this time.

 

[Dendrite]

I hugged M and said I am so pleased that she has found a supportive activity (yoga) outside of work. I got teary for her, which made her teary too. I think she felt affirmed.

 

[ms spock]

Made B pancakes.

 

[Dendrite]

Neck and back massage for wifey to relieve her muscle pain.

 

[ms spock]

Tended to B's Dad in many ways. Pancakes today, a roast dinner yesterday, sorting out his room, getting him shoes and pants that fit and slathering him with lotion to try to get some improvement with his skin.

 

[Barberian]

For no special reason other than to show my wife I lover her, I cut a few roses for her from the front yard. I presented them to my wife with a big "Love YOU"!

It didn't go as well as I hoped, because she was busy with her morning routine. I could tell she appreciated them, but it wasn't a "Hallmark moment" like I was hoping for. Every little positive thing helps though IMHO.

It is far too easy to fall in a rut with mental health issues, either as a sufferer or as a supporter. Our best efforts can fall on deaf ears or cold hearts because of the hurt and pain that is all to common in our daily routines.

To inspire myself, and hopefully others, I thought I'd make this thread. I don't remember there being a similar thread (but my memory isn't what it used to be).

To qualify, it has to be something special you have done within the last day or as soon as reasonable after (not everybody logs on, every day).

 

[amethist]

My husband bought me a bottle of wine today.

It's not one I buy for myself, I usually buy a cheaper one, but he knows I like it and I don't get it very often

 

[The Albatross]

I've been stepping up and sending good nutritious noon meals with my spouse on a regular basis.

 

[ms spock]

Praising and catching him doing the good stuff. So I notice that B doesn't some thing thoughtful- and I compliment and thank him for his thoughtfulness.