What Makes You Angry Today?

[combatgoldfish]

Im so sick of being employed for a company that prides itself on team work but doesn't do it in my office. It's all a bunch of blue falcons. It's every man for himself. Communication is non existent. Been looking for a new job. I hate job searching. I just want to find somewhere permanent and continue building my retirement.

Then I come home and hear about my girlfriend's pos baby's father. We're throwing her daughter's first birthday party. Now all the sudden he's throwing one the day before ours and inviting all the same family we've invited. And has been telling them about how he really wants to be a part of her life and be a father. He has no job, isn't in school, an his mother pays for him and his unemployed brother's expense.

In the course of almost two years he's done one thing financially which was give $40 to help out... He tells everyone about how my girlfriend keeps his daughter away from him. All he f*cking does is run his mouth about how he wants to be a parent but can't handle feeding, bathing, and giving her medication daily. After a day with her he's sending messages asking when my girlfriend is going to pick up the baby because he has stuff to do...

Stuff to do = play video games, jerk off, and sleep.

Honestly, I thought he went out of his way to do stuff to piss off my girlfriend by always "forgetting stuff" or having to be told how to care for his child. However, now, I believe he has a mentally disability. But still wouldn't mind taking him outback and beating the shit out of him.

 

[JarHed]

Stuff to do = play video games, jerk off, and sleep.

That may be, and I say may be cool if you're like 15. But a man without a job, profession or a prospect of one is a total looser.

The sad part Fish is that all that stuff is beating you down and making you miserable. Don't know what to tell you about you and your girlfriend as far as the baby is concerned. As long as the father is 'alive' he's going to be a thorn in both of your sides. Try and I know this is a hard one, not to put your energy as far as he's concerned into hate. It will eat you up inside and then in a way, he's won. Work on being in neutral about him. It doesn't mean that he doesn't need an ass kicking, he does but it just bad for you. Focus on what you, your girlfriend and the baby have together and make that good.

But as far as your job, yeah you need a change. Like it or hate it try and embrace the 'finding a new job' process. Get involved with a career adviser or job placement service, someone that can really help. The longer you put it off and wait the more unhappy you'll become and everything else will seem worse as well. If you start working in that direction you'll feel like the change is going to come. You've just got to make a positive decision. As always, let me know if I can help someway. It's still one day at a time.

 

[Jimmy1]

Fish, I am no expert when it comes to relationships as this is my third marriage, but I think I have learned enough. I am lucky that my previous wife and I still get along well, it was only the beast which got between us.

Anyway, when I met her, her kids were 1, 3 and 5. Their father was always an arsehole towards her, and for the first few years tried his hardest to get back. He never paid a cent in child support, always managed to submit his tax return with a very low income amount (over here in Australia, it's based on that). He even tried to forbid the kids calling me dad, and they wanted to. His booze always got in the road. The kids told me that one Christmas Eve, the were sitting in a car at a park while he was at an 'Adults Only' party. At midnight, he came over, gave them the presents from the boot of the car and went back drinking. You get the picture.

When the eldest was 16, a psych wanted to give him some mild liquid antidepressant, he was self harming. His father drove 1000 km to tell the psych no, it did not work though.

He used to not see them all year then try and bribe them at Christmas by buying really nice presents.

Today they are 19, 21, and 23. They still call me dad and spend more time with me than they do with him.

What I am trying to say mate is, just be you and don't worry about him no matter how much it pisses you off. By all means, defend them, but leave it at that. The child will make the decision as to who is important.

 

[Barberian]

I've been without internet for over a week for the most part .I NEED the internet, it helps keep my mind busy so I don't focus on the bad shit in my mind. I was sharing a wifi with a neighbor, but as with everything good, it comes to an end eventually.

My wife got an internet USB dongle from Cricket cell phone company, but it is ABSOLUTE CRAP. The plan was to use it on the home computer when home, and the laptop when we go places. I may have to wait up to 5-10 min for a SIMPLE page to load with this f*cking thing. Once in a while (like right now) it works as advertised, but for the most part it does it's best to piss me off so bad it's not funny. After about 7 hours of screwing with this thing, I had a fit like a 2 year old earlier today and smashed my monitor with my keyboard on accident.

Luckily, I have a spare monitor for just such reasons (keyboard, mouse, etc...). I've been doing pretty good with my rage fits for a while. I smashed my keyboard into little pieces a few months ago, but other than that, this last few months I've been doing pretty good.

 

[Spock]

Good to have you back Bar. Stay safe.

 

[Anglesachse]

.........................My wife got an internet USB dongle from Cricket cell phone company, but it is ABSOLUTE CRAP...............................................

Well if it works like Ausies play it`s no wonder :ROFLMAO:

LMAO, Cricket? Australians! = Crap (yes I know the history doesn`t bode we for us, but well, We still won this year)

LMAO I`ll second that cocker :p

Just had to get that in before anybody else does.

 

[Chin Strapped]

I'm getting angry at certain things, my ex wife is playing my daughter like a chess piece and random pricks are pissing me off at work. Some people don't even know they're born.

Not sure if this is similar for others, but I often avoid confrontation, not because I'm a chicken, because I'm all or nothing. I have no middle of the road. If I go then f*ck knows what I'll do.

Go hard or go home is stuck with me for life, I just wish some people would realise this before I go 0-100mph in 2 seconds.

 

[JarHed]

I just wish some people would realise this before I go 0-100mph in 2 seconds.

You and me both Brother. Most people just don't get it, you're right. Not until it's like way too late. I'm a lot like you I'll try to avoid a confrontation and for exactly the same reasons as you. It's better than being in jail. Guess that's what keeps me out.

 

[Sarg]

I'm not even gonna talk about the little black cloud that's been following me around since early this morning. Pales in comparison. Only damage was a small dent in my tool box lid. That's good, for me!!! The real pisser is the Veterinarian is dragging his feet releasing my dog's med recs. If they're not ready by tomorrow morning, old Doc and I are gonna sit down and have a little heart to heart.

My dog has a tumor in his mouth, he WILL see another vet tomorrow, or that rumbling under your feet will be me going nuclear.

Sarg

 

[Spock]

You and me both Brother. Most people just don't get it, you're right. Not until it's like way too late. I'm a lot like you I'll try to avoid a confrontation and for exactly the same reasons as you. It's better than being in jail. Guess that's what keeps me out.

I'm getting angry at certain things, my ex wife is playing my daughter like a chess piece and random pricks are pissing me off at work. Some people don't even know they're born.

Not sure if this is similar for others, but I often avoid confrontation, not because I'm a chicken, because I'm all or nothing. I have no middle of the road. If I go then f*ck knows what I'll do.

Go hard or go home is stuck with me for life, I just wish some people would realise this before I go 0-100mph in 2 seconds.

Spot on Dan! Avoiding confrontation is a strength for us. We want to engage and were taught to but now it is best to know when to avoid triggers and cope. I didn't go to a big family event to avoid to big family drama queens. My wife felt embarrassed for herself which was her issue not mine. I did the right thing, knew what was good for me and my PTSD and avoided a bad day.

Avoid, Ignore, Cope.

Peace brother

 

[JarHed]

In reference to the above couple of posts I have to also say how things have changed a lot in my lifetime. Everyone will experience this in their own time also, just the way of things.

Things are very different today than they were when I was a kid during the Jurassic era. To quote the author; 'these are the best of times, these are the worst or times'. I notice many times in my day to day dealings with people when in stores or supply yards that just about everyone has a negative attitude. I think; I'm here spending my money, what happened to the customer is always right? People want to argue, damned if I know why. Just that that's a trigger for me, a bad one. It can be tough sometimes not to just clock someone, ya'll know what I mean. Can't do that; first I'd get locked up and second my fist would be hurting something fierce.

It's an on going battle for us to 'do the right thing'. And you know what, we're better than they are for doing that. Considering what we are dealing with people just don't know what they're messing with. It's better for us and especially for them that we do a Spock say's;

Avoid, Ignore, Cope.

Have a good day ya'll

Jar

 

[Chin Strapped]

Another issue that continues to piss me off, is REMF soldiers posting 'war' pics in camp bastion on facef*ck. Like it's a holiday. I went on my wife's Facebook to look at my mate's New fish tank and saw some horrendous, "look at me, I'm having a great time" photos.

C**ts.

Excuse my English, but there are service men and women most likely on foot patrol right now, risking everything; Like we did.

Last time I go on my wife's Facebook for a while.