What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[shimmerz]

but really you can't just move on

Very few people understand this. I don't get it (how they don't get it).

 

[Owl.]

So who I was and am now is my choice, just wallowing?

Ooooh yeah, it is! Didn't you know? :banghead::banghead::banghead:

I just looooooove getting that kind of line.
Especially when they then go on to tell me that they aren't still "hung up" on the time they were overcharged by .03 at the store in 2001, and they'd gladly share their secrets to that success with me as long as I unbunch my panties and stop looking for excuses in "irrelevant sh*t from the past".

Which reminds me - I still haven't checked if it's explicitly illegal to staple someone's mouth shut. :shifty:

 

[Deleted member 28740]

go on to tell me that they aren't still "hung up" on the time

. Yes, I do find it amazing that when you can try to open up as to what happened it is a shutdown and rant, fingers in the ears and a few good slaps to get you out of your misery. Shaming then the next maneuver. Have to end it by making them feel good and thanking them for their concern, the burden that you are.

Not moving on and letting it just go.

Very few people understand this. I don't get it (how they don't get it).

There is a lot above and beyond shitty about PTSD, but this one is a hard one - losing friends and family connections, confidence and self esteem, the ability to make plans and dream good dreams looking forward to anything. Oh, I just like it like this, yep.

 

[shimmerz]

I still haven't checked if it's explicitly illegal to staple someone's mouth shut.

Hmmmm, I looked it up, Owl. As far as I can see in the 'legal books', it is only a crime if you use heavy duty staples. :angelic: :rolleyes:

 

[Owl.]

So using large numbers of common household staples is fine, noted.
That's really good to know, @shimmerz, thank you! :D
...was asking for a friend, of course. Just in case she ever needed to know. :angelic:

 

[Ellabella44]

Using a commercial staple gun would be considered intent.... Just imagining you are using it.. Not so much..lol.

 

[Cavegirl]

"There you go again...(my name)'s pity party"

"Why don't you just get up? How hard is it to get out of bed?"

"How can you be afraid of the shower? That's just stupid"

"I'm always here for you", apparently except when I'm really down.

"Oh, I know (so and so), and they were molested as a child, and they're just fine"

 

[Rosewater]

My mother: "oh, I suppose you can't get over it".

My GP: flicks through 5 page psych report and diagnosis, says "well, it's just an adjustment disorder. Sometimes our emotions run away with us". (The report clearly says PTSD, triggering an adjustment disorder as a secondary condition. He just hadn't read the conclusion properly.).

These don't make me angry. Just irritated and in dire need of ending the conversation.

I don't even bother to pay attention to "it could have been so much worse" or "you're lucky to be alive" stuff. As far as I'm concerned, those are just a noise people think they should make instead of having a genuine conversation - it's their health conversation equivalent of talking about the weather :)

 

[jaccat]

The other day someone said to me "what did you do?"

I'm still trying to figure that one out.

 

[Scarface]

My brother called me a freak today. While screaming at me at the top of his lungs. He also accused me of destroying the family.

It could have been worse always gets me too.

 

[Deleted member 487]

"This makes you a better person". True, perhaps. Because of dealing with all of my hell and nightmares it has made me stronger inside. However, I am a better person ONLY because I let the smart asses live. I am a much better person, because of my hell and damnation I must live with. I'm still alive. Many of them would not last, if you ask my opinion, based on how they react to me.

 

[Ocean5]

Being told everyone has skeletons in closet. You need to let it go.

Uh, some of us have mass graves from youth that have been re-awoken. It's not something to just be turned off...