Work Messing With My Head

[livergirl70]

I had such a bad day at work yesterday, I couldn't face it today. Now I'm guilt tripping myself for not being strong enough to face it.

I basically pushed myself really hard to go to work yesterday after quite a traumatic group therapy session on Tuesday night.

I then refused to authorise an expense claim as it didn't comply with policy, the guy then phoned me and was quite aggressive in his manner trying to get me to change my mind. I stood my ground and after a lengthy heated discussion he accepted that it wasn't going to happen. I was really proud of myself that I had managed to put my case without either crying or losing my temper in response to his bullying tactics.
About an hour later a manager with more authority than me said that they were authorising it, it felt like such a kick in the teeth. To say my confidence has now taken a battering is an understatement.

 

[The Albatross]

Try to shake it off... it's just one transaction out of a whole day and you were already in an emotionally fragile place. My day bit the big one today... but it's over and done. Fresh start tomorrow (people were weirding out today, is it a full moon or something?)

 

[Vee Lagrome]

I think it is so great that you stood your ground and you didn't give in to some stupid bully. The fact of the workplace is that these aggressive buffoons will do whatever they can to get around the rules of the company. If the manager wants to give in to this guy, that's their problem.

But the fact that you are so good at your job that you can pick apart these expense claims and apply the rules and regulations to them and THEN have the leadership abilities to calmly and professionally explain all of this to a stubborn person I think that's something you should reward yourself for. It sounds like you did a great job and you should be patting yourself on the back. So what if management decides to bend the rules to shut up some guy? I think this guy may have dented his reputation by acting like he did.

So, good job on your work abilities and leadership! :tup: