Are You Still Living With The Abuser ?

[Truthful_Whispers]

HELL no. My abuser is long dead. May he restlessly rot. I will not have anything to do with an abuser. If it is family, I boot their asses out of my life. If it is a friend that I find is abusing, THEY are out of my life. If I have significant other who had an abusive bf or husband before she met me, and she lowers herself and goes back to that abuser..even for five minutes..and I find out? Guess what...yep, I will drop her like a hot plate, even if we have already initiated another friendship or romantic relationship with each other. From that point on, she would be no better in my eyes than the trash she spread her legs for in the past (And this very thing has already happened in my life--more than once..) I have absolutely NO room or tolerance for abusers and their pathetic concubine in my life. I just wish they would all get dead.

 

[Episette]

are you still living with the persons who abused you ? your parents or boyfriend or whoever ?
i find it...

I am living with her because I cant afford to do anything else. I am SSI but they refuse 99% of my medical costs so I don't have the money to get my own apartment. I'm stuck living here and my health is getting worse as her mental state declines and she gets more abusive. I just had therapist/team said that they would take care of me and get me a place but they wont even return phone calls. They are a f'in joke. I'm at the point where I wish that I wasn't born.

 

[kenziii]

I am living with her because I cant afford to do anything else. I am SSI but they refuse 99% of my med...

i don't know what to say , whatever i said , i won't be able to understand how bad you are feeling now , but i can understand that we have past traumas and also recent everyday traumas ! how are we supposed to forget the past traumas when we get new traumas everyday !! , i hope someone can help you or that you can find a way to get money to live alone

 

[kenziii]

HELL no. My abuser is long dead. May he restlessly rot. I will no...

it is really hard , my abusers are my parents so i can't hate them , i got rid of a lot of abusive friends , but i can't hate my parents , i just need some time alone and i hope they get it someday somehow !

 

[Bipfroggit]

I moved out of my abuser's house on my 18th birthday. I was going to college in the city so i had someone supportive pick me up with my stuff and drive me out of there. I kept in touch with the abuser for a while until i completely stopped talking to them a couple years ago. It was the best thing i have ever done for my mental health. No more being continually exposed to more trauma from them. I would say the best thing you can do is work on leaving that environment. Once you are free, you will find the space to start healing.

 

[BloomInWinter]

I am still living with my most recent abuser, to my great shame, yes. But not for long. I'm getting a divorce and he is moving out. It has taken me years of therapy to get to this point and my great regret is not being strong enough to end it years ago.

I may end up losing the house and declaring bankruptcy but my sanity and safety for my children is the most important thing.

 

[anonymous]

I moved away from my abusive parents, but I am now landed with another person who financially abuses me, dragged me into crime, I think it would be classed as fraud and I'm so desperate to escape I'm considering asking one of my parents to let me stay with them for a while.

Awful

 

[kenziii]

I moved away from my abusive parents, but I am now landed with another person who financially abuses...

that is really sad :( i hope you find a way and leave him as well

I am still living with my most recent abuser, to my great shame, yes. But not for long. I'm gettin...

i wish you get divorced and be better soon , i hope it makes your children in a safer place as well

I moved out of my abuser's house on my 18th birthday. I was going to college in the city so i had so...

i think living with them only adds to my traumas , new ones , i hope i can move away

 

[moshpitmunkey]

I no longer live with my parent who was abusive towards me, but I still have to interact with her because I still depend on her to get to work, school, the doctors etc. And it seems like since I moved out she wants to spend even MORE time together and that's hard because I'm still trying to heal and my mom would rather act like nothing happened and its stressful. Stay strong and I hope you can start saving to move out but in the mean time try and do what you need to do for you to heal. Whether its continuing therapy or doing things that bring you peace and comfort

 

[kenziii]

I no longer live with my parent who was abusive towards me, but I still have to interact with her...

thank you so much , i hope you heal soon and i will do my best to move out , your words gave me hope