Parts That Want Us Dead

[shimmerz]

I wish there were an easier way.

I don't think there is, I am afraid. I am no expert though. I think the thing is with this stuff that situations keep presenting themselves over and over and over again because it is the only way to stabilize the sense of SELF.

 

[BlueOrange]

I can sometimes talk with 3 of me at once, but that's after years of work. When you have lots of coping resources available, it probably is worthwhile to deliberately bring out someone else.

By deliberately bringing people out, I learned how to sense them when they were emerging on their own, which was the step before being able to have conversations with them.

 

[aut555]

Can you get a small little tent to get inside and feel safe? They even have little car tents you set up on bed for kids. Your helplessness has been with you forever. You need to take a little control everyday over something. Could you have a small cat to help distract the little one and keep her entertained? Please give her crayons and paper to draw her feelings because she can't talk to you. You have to call her out everyday and tell she is loved. Do you have any relatives anywhere because l am confused if the SO is good or bad for you. Can he install a lock that you use a key from both sides then he can get in but you can't get out. Like only do this during cold weather maybe? Can you get under a bed, will that help calm down? Trying so much to reach out to you and protect her.

 

[estelle beninson]

I dissociate but its not DID. I still am only one person. However, I just space out a
lot of the time. Before this happened my attention span was more continous. Now I
am in a series of away states.

For a few years after the event, I would sit down to eat a meal, and then come round, and
the food was eaten but I wouldnt remember it. Thats one example. Or I would find myself
somewhere and have no idea how I got there. I just want to get back to the way I was.
I suppose the event are still taking up so much space in my head there is no room for all the
other stuff. I found I couldnt listen to classical music because you need a memory to make sense
of each part of the tune, or I couldnt concentrate to read, because my memory wouldnt last long enough
to take in a complex sentence.

any ideas or

 

[Ronin]

Now I
am in a series of away states.

Building connection between the away states?

As in being aware / working on mindfulness and grounding while in each of those states, and then why they're spacing you out the way they are, what's the underlying theme, & working on learning to not space it out as a whole. Would be my go to, basically the same as mindfulness & exposure therapy, only in smaller bits with each of those states.