Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[Chiqui]

Well, I must not «everything» went wrong today. And also realized I wouldn't earn a penny as a future teller :rolleyes:

 

[Chiqui]

And the should be just colapses my willing of doing anything.
Somewhere in my brain thinks I am faster than the electricity, a robot, a machine superwoman. Bah!!

 

[ms spock]

The 10 primary cognitive distortions are:

1. All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
2. Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
3. Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.
4. Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
5. Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)
6. Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
7. Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
8. Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.
9. Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.
10. Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.

No 1 and No 10 and crazy arsed maladaptive daydreaming. So now to manage the distorted cognitions without the filter of my disordered binge and comfort eating and my profound dissociation. Sometimes I am not sure if I am dissociated or not. So it is challenging. I also have a lot of pain in my hip and back and that is difficult to manage as well, but I am doing better. I am doing a stack of activities to further my recovery and healing.

 

[Chiqui]

Emotional reasoning.

 

[ms spock]

All or nothing thinking - wow can I go into those ruminations so quickly! Noticing it more and more and disrupting my thoughts more and more.

Personalisation - it is not all my fault - it never was - I was a child!

 

[ms spock]

All or Nothing Thinking: I slip into this and then I slip into helplessness and hopelessness - with corrosive self doubt. This is not a helpful way to pass my days. I am getting better at getting out of it, but I engage in the distorted cognitions of personalising and I also do emotional reasoning and I get a bit stuck. Chipping away at this, bit by bit.

 

[Chiqui]

Labelling. I am a nasty person because I said no to get engaged into an intrusive and not wanted conversatuon on the phone. She is old, she needs a shoulder, blah blah blah. I said no and feel guilty for being selfie and non emphatical BUT if I would have said yes, and had this conversation on the phone, now I wil feel powerless and used as a doormate. Soo guilty or used. Any of the choices is good for me :(:mad:

 

[ms spock]

Great you are gaining such awareness @MariaY!

I step out of personalising and emotional reasoning more and more each day at the moment.

Still doing a tango with all or nothing thinking. I think that is attached to my reactive attachment disorder. I am making headway with that as well.

 

[Chiqui]

Great you are gaining such awareness @MariaY!

I step out of personalising and emoti...

So glad you do!!!
I am very grateful for the info about david d.burns. I am reading at the moment the boom Feeling good, what a gift!! I never learned how to deal with rejection neither verbal attacks, well, so many things I wasn't taught..I just laughted loud reading how to deal with complaining people. I was in a coffee place and people look at me. How I have been able to survive until now without knowing this!!
I must say, too, I had a testing situation and I did quite badly, but I am ready to learn. Thankyou!!!

 

[ms spock]

As long as we are willing to learn @MariaY, and we keep on going - we will get there.

 

[Chiqui]

B/W thinking: you are my super trustworthy friend or you are my enemy. Nothing on between
Come ooonnn....

Shoulds: you should had gone before all happened. This is your fault ( Feelings of guilt and sadness)
Response: I didn't do it because I hadn't enough money then. Why?No work, no money. You should have enough money, you lazy. I have ptsd, certain things are more difficult for me than for others. Excuses. Always excuses. You should be doing....and on and on...:shifty::sour:

 

[Chiqui]

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