Reality Checks Needed - tenant situation

[Ronin]

Don't even know what I am trying to say.

She's lucky you are not having bunch of friends smash her trailer & haul it off for not complying with you being so nice to her & that pile of garbage she friends.

In my book she crossed you enough she's in a fair target zone and it's only her fault.
Being angry is only warranted, dear. You are still being nice, & cheers. :hug:

So, tow the f*cker, disconnect her, no comms trying to be nice to her owed, & stay safe first.

 

[Muttly]

So... yesterday some guy who I've seen over there briefly showed up. He said he was there to... and then I couldn't hear over my dog's barking. Day ends and trailer and car are still there. That was yesterday after telling them they needed to move it Monday. Like a schmoe I let it go since she'd said it would be moved. This morning when I woke up, her car hood was up, so someone had been there last night after I went to bed. I was at work all day today. I did send a message confirming that the trailer and car would be gone today. No response. Came home and there's someone parked in front of my house. There's another guy that I have seen with her sort of wandering around by the trailer and her car. The trailer is plugged in again. I go into my house and take care of my animals and get some food. (My lunch was rancid so I was hungry!!!).

Random guy is wandering around out there when I let special pup back in. I hear her say something so I know she's there. Then she drives off in her. No communication from her either in person or to my message. It's 9pm and the trailer is still there.

I'm just so freaking pissed off. And I feel like maybe I'm unreasonably mad? I want this over. I want them gone. I am pretty sure that there is a tow company in town that can tow the trailer. They said I just have to call and fill out some paperwork. And I am tired and overwhelmed and don't want to have to deal with more hassle but fine. I will. But in the mean time, I sort of want to take babaseball bat to her stupid trailer. And that's not like me and it freaks me out.

 

[Friday]

And I feel like maybe I'm unreasonably mad?

Nope.

...Well... if we stretch “unreasonable” to mean that you wouldn’t actually BE mad if you’d already towed it? Then, maybe. But I’m not very fond of woulda/shoulda/coulda. That’s not a real place, so let’s not go there, right? The present & future IS a real place we can do things in, so let’s go there, instead. Like it’s unreasonable to spend tomorrow mad, and the next day mad, and the day after that mad, and the weekend mad, and next weekmmad, and next month, and all summer... when you have a solution to no longer be mad as of first thing tomorrow morning. :tup:

Sometimes the question we have to ask ourselves is do we want to be mad OR get the camera fill out paperwork & call the tow truck?

 

[Sideways]

It makes sense that you feel really mad. Use it as a motivator. Likely you’ll feel really good when the tow truck arrives:)

 

[blackemerald1]

And I feel like maybe I'm unreasonably mad?

...No... you are reasonably mad but it doesn't matter which mad you are anyway...

I want this over. I want them gone.

Good idea... good decision....

there is a tow company in town that can tow the trailer.

Good idea....

They said I just have to call and fill out some paperwork.

Good plan....

I sort of want to take babaseball bat to her stupid trailer.

Completely understandable because you're mad... but bad plan...

Call the tow truck company and proceed...

:hug: :)

You've got this @Muttly !!

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Hey Muttly,

In these things I am far more straightforward than some. I prefer to take a practical viewpoint in situations like these.

She isn´t paying you any rent.
She´s asking for things all the time.

I think she knows that you are willing to give her some space, and I think she´s playing into it.
Malevolent? Not necessarily. A person in need will take what they can get. It´s not bad, it´s what it is. Life.

But the way I see it, you need to think of yourself first.
That means drawing the line.

Edit: did not read all of the above, but I see you´re drawing the line, hope you will enjoy problem-free living after this!

 

[scout86]

I agree that being angry about this is reasonable. "Anger is the emotion whose purpose is to keep other people from running over the top us." Your situation is an entirely appropriate time for it show up. If you want to be super nice, you could message her and say, "If your stuff isn't gone by noon, I'm calling the tow truck and you can deal with them." Then do it. You want to keep your promises, right?

Sorry your having to deal with this mess, but i think you can handle it. (Good luck!)

 

[Muttly]

They are gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????

 

[Justmehere]

Yes!!! Congrats!!!

 

[Sideways]

? WOOHOO?

 

[The Albatross]

Relieved and glad to read that ((((Muttly)))) - whew, what an ordeal!

 

[scout86]

All right!!! You made it, well done!