What are you attracted to?

[Rose White]

Someone who lets me pop their pimples

 

[elizabeep]

someone who i can cook for and enjoys my food hehe
also someone who enjoys receiving and giving gifts
but most importantly someone who is chill and will be there when things are tough

 

[Teasel]

A thing which attracts me to.people is charm, and no I definitely don't trust that.

 

[user27357]

oh man. this thread rotated to top of mind again.
What makes me want to be friends with another male is a slowly developed trust that neither of us will flinch or throw a punch when we are standing toe to toe and "debating" a difficult, consequential subject. What repels me? Fear of that poorly thrown and probably inconsequential metaphoric punch, most often preceded by the telltale flinch. Sooo...
would I be attracted to a female partner who could debate with clear-eyed ferocity and no flinch? Probably, yeah, maybe intensely, but then I might flinch cause I'm trained to be timid without the carefully developed necessary trust in place so by my own standards I am disqualified from further interaction before I even get to be attracted- damn.

Strong women attract me for all the right reasons but I wont be standing toe to toe with one because of all the learned cautious behaviors.

And that is about a half of a start for a good song

 

[Survivor3]

I am attracted to my friend L for so many reasons. She's a great friend. That said I desire R, a black man I had a brief relationship with when I was younger. I was in a bad place emotionally and psychologically but I think about him alot and I just wish I hadn't f*cked that up. I'm attracted to both men and women.

 

[Aprilshowers]

In Order:
Faith
Family over ego, job, friends etc.
Compassion
Intelligence (yes, I am a snob)
Fabulous sense of humor
Up-to-date on current events, world events and politics
Generosity
Self confident without being self-centered

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

I like people who can be comfortable in silence. Quality time can just be being together mostly. Enjoying the company, doing your things.

I like curious people who want to know more about stuff and ask questions about how things work.

I like people who give me food

And I like people who are calm/calmspoken (but not patronisingly)

This is for people in general.
I don’t immediately trust but often less repelled by them. Or think better of them even if I won’t tust.

 

[RainbowSearchParty]

For me, it’s a steady, embodied groundedness combined with incredibly high intelligence. I never want to be with someone less intelligent than I am. That sounds really self-centered; it’s not that I think I’m smart, but I want my partner to push me to achieve better and be better in all areas of my life. But also be a kind, steady human at the same time.

I guess what I am attracted to is also what I want to be. Reminds me of being a young person and being told my crushes on girls were just me wanting to be like those girls, that one day I’d come around to men. Yeah, but one can want to be like someone and WITH someone at the same time. And I just love women, everything about them.

 

[BuildingSelf24]

An update on my previous post: I recently found myself being attracted to someone for the first time in a while. I was kind of taken aback by it and wanted to demonize the feeling until I realized what drew me to them. They seemed really kind and attentive. They also made me feel like I would be protected and safe in their presence.

 

[Ice_Fire]

Oh boy, ha. Well I’m a single Pringle again and having to think about this stuff. It seems what I have been attracted to is a false sense of safety, standoffishness but overtly placid. Non-threatening but at arms length. Charming and says the right things without actually doing them.

What I desire is the total opposite of that! Someone consistent, someone caring, intelligent and dependable. Honest. Adventurous. Someone who can push me to be a better person, to live my life rather than just watch it pass me by.

 

[Weemie]

I am aromantic but in terms of friends/companions: Kindness, gentleness, the "boring" folks, people who are sharp/witty, funny and intelligent (but this honestly isn't something I actively seek. I much rather patient and easygoing folks), and older people (like 3+ generations older). I do also get along pretty well with the chaos goblins of the world as I'm the chill sidekick lol. Tbh I just like people in general of all kinds, my only real deal-breaker is cruelty, abuse, bullying, bigotry.

 

[user27357]

I am aromantic

Do you mean aromatic? If so you are not alone. As I get older my senses have changed with a general loss of their younger strengths. I don't smell as good as I used to