Put In A Box And Ship To No-man's Land

[saffy]

I don't agree with this. You can not predict the future in the sense that you'll know it

lol yes thats what I meant, just did not put it right lol. I agree we cannot predict anything in life as such but can see signs that may predict a certain happening or can predict certain feelings we may have expereinced before if put in a similar situation, But, you can also change this by taking a different path once recognised or thinking a different way. :)
I dont think anyone is quite prepared though for what happens, even if prewarned, therefore you cannot predict what will be done in the face of it.
lol Im just confusing myself now :)

hugs
Saffy :)

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes, maybe that feeling that I can never get better at managing this, therefore it can never change (am not able).

 

[p-no]

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[p-no]

Similarly, I do not know how it exactly corelates or triggers you in terms of your father, but I trust that if it's worse to talk about than the abuse it's extremely difficult and important.

Maybe I just assume it's worse than facing my abuse in life because I've faced it and got through it in that sense... But right now, yes, it is extremely difficult. Although she can not really help me, I am glad my t is there to just listen and be with me.

I have found that if I don't have 'thoughts' in place as to what I should do (even loosely planned), then I won't

I wish I would be able to stick to the "I won't". For some reason that I do not know yet, I can not stop. Maybe simply because I don't want to (yet?). No clue. But then I'll do it anyways and that does not feel safe or anything. I think I'm crossing my own boundaries then, maybe in a way that I shouldn't. Confusing business.

I think though that another thread here has helped me see what I can do to get more decided about things so that I can stick with my own decision and follow through with it (e.g. backing out).

you always have the right to choose as you wish

Thank you so much for saying this. I need to hear it over and over to keep believing it.

I do know I have that right but I do not know how to exercise it properly yet. Maybe assertiveness training can help. I'll have to check into all that once I've moved etc. I'm drained at the moment.

(((((((((Junebug)))))))))) I am very grateful for having met you on here.[DOUBLEPOST=1351110955][/DOUBLEPOST]

Im just confusing myself now

Agree to what you're saying in your post, Saffy. :)
And: Welcome to the club!!! :D

 

[p-no]

Of course you can back out...

For the first time in my life, I have backed out before I got in all the way. Sure is success, but feels rotten because it's difficult if you like someone and somehow can't stop although you've finally learned to put your feelings on the list of pros and cons too. But still, this is success. May it feel like it or not. It's week two of staying out and although I lack a lot of sleep (especially good sleep), I have not gotten back in. That's all that counts right now. Can't wait for my next t appointment in two weeks though. All this time without a t has been difficult.

 

[Springer80]

:cry: :cry: :cry:

Oh P-no, sorry I don't know how I missed this post...:sorry:
Big Retrospective Hugs...

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((P-no))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

 

[p-no]

Big Retrospective Hugs...

Hugs are always good, dear Springer. Hope you feel the same: ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Springer)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))