The When, How And How Much Of Telling Others About Ptsd

[Luigi]

Thank you for that last bit of clarity. I hope it will make you feel good to know that we've had LOTS of conversations about where we are and where were going. We've discussed geography, children, careers, family of origin, etc.......and that was all before we met in person a few months ago. He and I both want a life partnership, whether it's marriage or not. The children discussion is tricky, because we both have some, and we both want more, and heaven knows blending families, pregnancy, and jostling family trees can be hell on PTSD. Well, tricky for me, this is why we have to have the PTSD conversation.

 

[aj1]

I think the hardest part for him to understand, as I am right now, is that we cannot really help. It is out of our control. We cannot love you enough to make it better. Today has been a really hard day for me. But I know it pales in comparison to your hardest days.

 

[Orglethorp]

we cannot really help

Supporters can't cure PTSD for sufferers, true, but I wouldn't say supporters can't really help. It depends on what both people want, what both people need, and how well those things are communicated and understood, but if those things are all aligned, then supporters definitely can make a big difference for sufferers.

 

[aj1]

Supporters can't cure PTSD for sufferers, true, but I wouldn't say supporters can't really help. It depends on what both people want, what both people need, and how well those things are communicated and understood, but if those things are all aligned, then supporters definitely can make a big difference for sufferers.

My statement was not fair. I am reflecting my situation at the moment. When a supporter is shut out, there is a feeling of being unable to help. I guess I cannot really say how my ex is doing right now, because I don't know. I don't know if I helped her or not. I really thought I was a positive part of her life, but here I am now.

 

[Orglethorp]

Fair enough, I'm sorry she decided to handle things that way.

 

[aj1]

Thank you. I am no expert. I am just a witness looking to share my story. Selfishly for myself, but if I can help others with my experience then it will all be for not.