Supporter Combat Ptsd - Boyfriend Hit Me

[Gs172003]

Thanks for your honesty. I'm not someone who is easily walked over. I'm just finding it hard to let go of the experie...

No no no no no

You're talking about a man that injured you AND YOURE IN THE HONEYMOON STAGE

You can't fix him. You can't love him into remission. He's dangerous. Get the hell out.

 

[Gs172003]

Whew I responded before I saw your response. YAY that you're not giving him a chance to convince you how much "he promises to change and he'll never do it again" just to do it again next time he reacts to whatever.

 

[lolalou]

Whew I responded before I saw your response. YAY that you're not giving him a chance to convince you how...

I know. Believe me I've seen sense now. I've changed my phone number and he's sent me emails threatening to kill me. Such a shock and difference from the man I thought I'd fallen in love with. But that wasn't the full story. Illness or no illness, I'm out. I've quickly fallen out of love with him so I feel a lot different to when I posted this post a couple of days ago.

 

[lolalou]

Speaking as someone who is inherently violent, if he doesn't believe he has the self control? Whether to...

That's really well put, thank you. I'm leaving him to it. With an illness like this I've realised you have to walk away when someone is telling you to leave them be.

 

[Justmehere]

I know. Believe me I've seen sense now. I've changed my phone number and he's sent me emails threatening to kill me.

Ugh. I'm so sorry.

Please know that the vast majority of PTSD sufferers are not violent in any way - but he clearly is violent and out of control.

Please also consider contacting a safe house or law enforcement to take measures to keep yourself safe. Take his threats seriously and don't disregard them because of an illness that may play a role in them.

Hopefully, nothing will happen and you can carry on your journey in life without him or any further problems from him. :hug:

 

[ladee]

Hope you have saftey measures in place. Sounds like a lot more than PTSD going on with him.
Wish you safety!

 

[lolalou]

Thank you for the recent replies. It certainly does seem more than ptsd or an extreme case. We have emailed tonight and said our goodbyes and I think he both have closure. I feel sorry for him, but I'm letting go and making sure I'm safe.

 

[Powder]

Please don't assume he is not abusive toward his kid. I'd report the abuse to the authorities so there is some kind of "paper trail" (do people say that phrase anymore now that everything is online?) in case the kid starts showing up to school with a black eye.

 

[Artsy]

We should talk. I deal w the same thing w my boyfriend over the last 3 yrs (he was my best friend for 12 yrs prior. He found his father dead when he was 29 and his brother was murdered by his girlfriend. His entire childhood he was abused by peers. We see a counselor. Drinking is the trigger. He says it's like he's a passenger in his own body when that happens. They somehow misplace us with the people that hurt them and take their anger out on us meaning for it to be someone else. Key is learning how to keep it under control with the right meds, lack of triggers, and love. But my boyfriend doesn't want me to leave him. But our parents want us apart. He's 35 and I'm 40. I don't want to lose him. I worry, a lot. And know he needs me. Again, if he wants to make it work he can. But that's the only way. Don't listen to what anyone else says. It's your life and only you know what will make u happy.