Contacted By One Of My Abusers Tonight

[Fadeaway]

They sent me an e-mail under my sons e-mail address so I was so excited because I thought it was him. I feel sick to my stomach, I am shaking, I don't know what to do. I am trying to ignore it. My husband is trying to talk me down, trying to remind me that he was just trying to rattle my cage, but it worked, and I hate that, I hate that it still has so much power over me, I hate that I still have nightmares about him, that I have accidentally assaulted my husband in my sleep because I believed that I was defending myself against my ex.

 

[desiderata310]

Umm… wow. @Fadeaway This sounds like what I am going through. My abuser has been contacting me for the last several weeks and I got in a really bad place. My therapist insisted that I file for a restraining order. It covers any and all forms of contact- including emails. You may want to consider this. My therapist even went with me to the hearing (I had to get a continuance)

 

[Fadeaway]

I think I might go down and speak with the domestic violence center here tomorrow. It is a complicated situation though.
It is so hard when you try and move forward and something like this happens. It can really back peddle the recovery processes.
I know from past experience. It just doesn't seem fair that someone can wreck so much havoc in someones life. I hope you get oyur restraining order, no one deserves to feel like this.

 

[macbeth]

I understand completely what you are going through and glad that you messaged me. I have a life long intervention order (restraining order) against my ex, however this does not stop him sometimes. It's hard because just as I feel like I'm making progress he makes contact and I am back to where I started. People don't realise the damage the contact can cause. And it prolongs the suffering.

 

[zeckster81]

First, I am very sorry you are experiencing those emotions and fears all over again. You don't deserve that. I too have been contacted by past abusers and know that it is very difficult to work through. If you don't mind I am going to suggest you talk to a detective or police about filing a restraining order where he cannot contact you whatsoever. I was reluctant to do this at first but then did this and have felt a lot better. He honestly did not know email counted in the original restraining order, but still got fined for breaking it. So that may be the case.

I wish you much peace soon!

 

[Stir Ling]

I'm so sorry.