I am often intensely empathetic toward people who are obviously struggling such as mothers in hospital waiting rooms but everyday stuff like so-and-so failed to do his job pretty much never brings up a sense of human empathy for me. I assume the worst and frankly, I suspect I am usually correct. I am quick to empathize in situations that I have experience with but what I don't understand could fill volumes and gets less consideration -- this, I think is pretty human. So, the idea that empathy would come through analyzing, I would also consider a normal human thing. How can you really empathize when you don't understand?Anti-social personality because empathy doesn’t come easy to me:
Who says or said this? >>>>>>For me empathy comes through analyzing.. I have to work for it, it’s not natural. Really? Who says this? Who feels this way?
Im still investigating..
You are reflecting on your own behaviour that makes you a real human as well RussellSue. Im not able right now to say much about empathy, Disorders and how I’d classify my own mode of behavior. For a long time I believed there are deficits in my limbic system, so this statement is based on? Just a feeling.. and my behaviors as a child. It’s too long and irrational.. so it’s really hard for me to tell.Nevertheless, I wonder about it often because I can really become an asshole when shit doesn't get done by the book.
It’s a helluva lot easier for me to SHOW empathy, when my emotions are entirely shut off & I feel nothing. Snort. So many/most people think I feel when I don’t, and think I don’t, when I do. What I’ve learned? People who read me wrong, don’t get my time.Anti-social personality because empathy doesn’t come easy to me:
Who says or said this? >>>>>>For me empathy comes through analyzing.. I have to work for it, it’s not natural. Really? Who says this? Who feels this way?
Im still investigating..
‘Sense of foreshortened future’ used to be on the symptom list. Poetry in that. Meaning truth."I will not live long. I will die of something bad or cancer early in life."
This happens to my mother - having a little girl with a facial deformity was a shit storm for her. It is hard to deal with because given our history, it's very easy to think she's just not interested in playing mom, anymore. When I injured myself last year, she vanished. I had to talk myself out of being pissed at her but I have watched her do this stuff over the years AND be overly empathetic toward outright dangerous people, too. After 40 years of her being my mother, I know what to expect from her if I am paying attention to her patterns and not how I feel, and most especially, not how other people see it. She is extremely empathetic. That's why she must stay isolated on her 60 acres -- when she leaves there, desperate people find her. I'm not a huge fan of my stepfather but have to admit that his grouchy demeanor keeps her a whole lot safer than she would be on her own. He won't put up with people. That's damned lucky for my mom.too much empathy can be just as difficult to deal with as "not enough" and can be mistaken for the same thing, when the person is dissociating just to survive the empathy overload
This happens to my mother - having a little girl with a facial deformity was a shit storm for her. It is hard to deal with because given our history, it's very easy to think she's just not interested in playing mom, anymore. When I injured myself last year, she vanished. I had to talk myself out of being pissed at her but I have watched her do this stuff over the years AND be overly empathetic toward outright dangerous people, too. After 40 years of her being my mother, I know what to expect from her if I am paying attention to her patterns and not how I feel, and most especially, not how other people see it. She is extremely empathetic. That's why she must stay isolated on her 60 acres -- when she leaves there, desperate people find her. I'm not a huge fan of my stepfather but have to admit that his grouchy demeanor keeps her a whole lot safer than she would be on her own. He won't put up with people. That's damned lucky for my mom.
I have some of this myself but not on the level my mother does. It has to be hard to deal with.
I think it is wonderful that you are aware that this happens to you, even if you maybe can't talk about it in the moment. My mother is not aware of it and will not discuss it, ever. I think this makes things a lot worse.