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Do You Have Fear of Human Beings in General?

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Cloud

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Hi all,

How do you conquer your fear of human beings or your fears (for me is the fear of being stalk, rape, sexual moleststion/assault)?

I find that my biggest fear is of human being since they're the ones that've given me the trauma, yet as a PTSD patient, we know that we need to have at least on close friend or family member to help you heal. As for me and countless others, we truly don't have anyone to rely on for support as in close human contact. Since, family and friends were the ones who betrayed us first.

How do you go about and make new friends that you can trust?

How to you even pick up the pieces and go out there looking to reconnect with people?

How do you find the energy and will to want to take care of yourself?
-As for me, I find iti harder and hader to take care of myself when the depression and the feeling of lost and purposeless has taken over me. I find myself forcing myself to get out of bed, forced my self to exercise in hope that I'll feel better but I just ended up crying the whole way through when I exercise. At the end of the exercise, I didn't feel good...I still feel the despair, sorrow and grief.

Tears just filled my eyes spontaneously that makes it impossilbe to even make new friends as I no longer have control my emotions.

Every where I go, I wear my sunglasses even though is winter here in Canada because I'm afraid to look into my eyes. All I see in the reflection of my eyes is nothing but grief and sadness.

The worst thing about being in PTSD is feeling of isolation, cut-off from the rest of the world. Especially when you have absolutely no one to hang out with, someone you can trust and be yourself without putting on a brave face to putting up an act as if everthing is ok.

How do you unstuck yourself out this vicous cycle of trauma as having PTSD is on its own a traumatic journey?

I feel very very stuck right now because of that; I crave for human interaction but I have no one to turn to. The only people that wants to give companiaships are the men who are interested in dating me. However, I can't date right now 'cuz I think I won't be able to protect myself and set proper boundaries.

So how do I deal with this endlees feel of loneliness and solitude?

I'm so sick and tire of being in isolation. I've been very isolated all my life, even when I was in a relationship for 6 years but I felt more alone when I was with him beacuse he was emotionally and verbally abusive. And he never wanted to get to know the real me 'cuz he just wants to be taken care by me and unwilling to recipricate the same feelings, respect and consideration.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you in advance!

Cloud
 
I wish I could help with some magic words, but I can't. I am in the same boat, except for 1 thing. I do have mother, but that she is not always going to be around for me, she is 84.

I hope that knowing someone else feels as you do helps in some small way. I know what is feels like to be afraid of people. It sucks! !
 
I understand what you are going through, Cloud - I feel very much the same way most of the time.

After reading some of the success stories around, I know that some people find their way out enough to make life work again. I try to take some comfort in the thought that it can get better.

You can definately take comfort in the fact that the people here at this forum are in your corner.
 
Hi Cloud,
I have definitely been there and am working on my ability to trust others. The fact that my kid's dad and I got back together after 13 years has gone a long way towards healing my view of others (he disappeared after I told him I was pregnant, now we've been together 3 years and are married). My trauma came from many sources, one of which was the other kids at school. It's hard to express how that broke my ability to view myself positively in a social setting and my trust in potential friends.

The more I accept and love myself, the better this is getting. My therapy sessions in the past year and recently have almost exclusively focused on self-acceptance. The fact that I chose social work as a career has forced me to learn to interact with others and it's mostly in a safe environment where I have had some measure of control over the situation. My work experiences have led me to realize that there is no scarlet letter on my head screaming "victimize me" ...and that I can use my social work conversational skills in personal interactions.

On a daily basis I have been doing EFT, which includes repeating the phrase "I completely love and accept myself". It's a reprogramming technique which I believe is starting to work on my ingrained belief that I somehow deserved all that happened to me.

Also, relaxing a little with the people I know already has caused them to be more drawn to me it seems... A spontaneous email has resulted in a former co-worker making plans with me... I took a risk and phoned another person I knew at my former job and we are closer in our life experiences than I think anyone else I've ever met. I think for me having a sort of optimism for things and not worrying about the outcome, just putting myself out there has helped me to initiate and maintain some friendships, although being isolated is still an issue for me.
 
Hi Grama-Herc,

Thank you for your kind words and sharing your thoughts!....I'm taking baby steps towards healing that is all I can do right now.

Cloud
 
Hi Other,

I'm very touched by your words; I'm very glad I found this site that can give emotional support from people who understand where I came from....I'm trying to look at positive side of life.....and begining to try ETF and may do some self learning on piano or guitar.

I know it can get better but right now, I'm living in a state of contracditory. On one hand I really want to get better and still searching for ways to get better; on the opposite direction I just wish I die early so that I no longer have to suffer anymore.

Thanks again, for your words of encouragement!

Cloud
 
Hi Trial'n'error,

Thank you so much for your advice! I just started doing some ETF and hopefully it will work for me.

Kudos for you for being abe to finished school and holding down a job. I wasn't able to finish college because of the trauma has take so much toll on my body and when exam times comes; I get so stressed that I couldn't do well at school. I'm unable to hold down a job either right now it just seems my future is very bleak....

But your kind words made realized that I can still hope that one day I'll get better and I'll be able to heal.

Cloud
 
Cloud, You might want to read my thread "Isolation, Struggling To Meet New Friends" ( I don't kno how to link so you'll have do a search for it). It's not too many pages back.

Anyway, there is a lot of advice in that thread that you may or may not find useful. It certainly helped me to post it. I now have 4 friends so far not to mention some of the people I've met here online. That is a far cry from where I was when I started that thread.

Of course this is just a suggestion. You also seem to be getting some decent replies.

Best wishes, Morgan
 
... Kudos for you for being abe to finished school and holding down a job.
Thanks so much Cloud. Many people told me it couldn't be done. It took me twice to finish school, the first time right out of the chute I fell apart, flunked out, got my gpa back up then dropped out, and ultimately wound up hospitalized. I then spent many years homeless or near homeless and working minimum wage jobs. Everyone, including me, thought my life would never change.

I nailed it on the second attempt and became a social worker at age 32... There is hope... however I am not saying anyone can do this or faulting anyone for not! I know that many are so ill it is impossible to achieve certain goals.. but it might not have to be forever.
 
Hi Morgan,

Thanks for reaching out to me, I just finished reading your thread. It's good that you've managed to make new friends and gotten out of your comfort zone. Hopefully I'll be able to do that eventually, I guess you know the old saying "it takes time to heal". It certaintly is true for us, hopefully when I'm more able to control my emotions better, I'll be able to get out and make new friends.

Cloud
 
Hi Trial'n'error,

I think a lot of people underestimate your potential of never give-up 'til you reached your goal. There is a Chinese saying: "Anything is possible to accomplished; with both persistance and hard work"

You've conquered 2 big battles in life which is a degree that allows you to better your life and the ability to hold on to a job and contibute to the society, helping others that are in need. Through your own tenacity, hard work and patience. I'm truly happy for you.

I wish more luck will come to my way, since I've never been lucky at family, friends and work. I'm disabilities since I can no longer work 'cuz of my PTSD.

Cloud
 
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