Poll Do You Want To Hold, Or Be Held?

[Quang]

I want to be held, because I need protective arms in which I feel warm and safe. I will only accept my wife and kids to hold/hug me. Any one else and I am very tense. I have very few friends who sometimes hug me, usually to provide me comfort, and even though I genuinely appreciate their concern, I freeze and I hold my breath.

I want to hold: I always have my teddy bear in bed and I frequently fall sleep holding him against my heart. He is a gift from my wife, because I once told her I didn't have a plush toy to comfort me as a child; he is very precious to me. I love to hold my wife and kids too. I don't touch anyone else other than the occasional handshake (last week for the first time in my life, I felt confident enough to initiate a handshake).

But there are days when I can't be touched. Especially my back. If anyone touches me (even my wife) I startle, even if I know she is going to touch me.

 

[Lionheart]

I want to hold and be held, but being touched sometimes irritates the hell outta me and I will pull away. I'm not sure why so, anyway, I also chose 'other'.

 

[ninja]

When frightened I consciously want to be held. I have a hard time relaxing when that happens though. Holding something often helps and is less complicated.

 

[hodge]

Being held for too long makes me feel claustrophobic, but I do ask hubby for hugs sometimes. At night in bed I feel comforted by touching him with one hand until I fall asleep (if and when I ever do). So I answered both as a female.

 

[SophiaWisdom]

I am SO INTO being held it's not even funny. I purposefully don't touch men though because in the past that has turned into being taken advantage of, but to be held platonically is one of the most wonderful feelings. I only get hugged by women because they don't try to grope me or turn it into something gross but I wouldn't mind being platonically held by either. (My abuser was a woman, so I don't have a gender preference, as long as it's non-sexual/molesting.)

I love holding babies, but I esp. like when they reach for me. I will hold my dog, but he's a buff boy dog and hates being cuddled lol.

 

[asadafagahajakal]

Sometimes I have moments when it's best not to talk to me. Just shut up and hug me :hug: