Poll For Those In A Safe Committed Relationship, When Were You Diagnosed?

[Justmehere]

For those in a safe committed relationship, were you diagnosed before or after relationship started?

I'm not in that kind of relationship, so I can't answer - or rather my answer would be before the relationship.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I don't know if I have ever been in a 'safe' relationship with anyone, at least emotionally. My PTSD symptoms have existed most of my life, but I wasn't formerly diagnosed with it until around 2010.

 

[DogwoodTree]

I think I had "subtle" symptoms all through childhood (dissociation all along, depression really geared up when I was 13, SI started when I was in high school), but it became full-blown after leaving home (flashbacks, constant fearful behavior, anxiety, digestive issues, preoccupation with it all, and so on). Met my eventual-DH during that first year away from home, and received a formal dx of PTSD while we were dating but before we got married. I still wonder what it was about me that he thought it would be a good idea to get involved with me. He's a caretaker, so I think it made sense to him to need to take care of me...which, introduces a whole other level of relationship dynamics to address. I think this actually gives us a chance to grow as a couple instead of this just being all about my issues.

 

[InvisibleSun]

I was diagnosed before my love and I started dating. My issues eventually took their toll of our relationship and I sought treatment. He has been so patient and understanding with me over the years and I don't know how he's done it..

 

[Ronin]

Does that 'committed' have to be present time? (We're getting there, though I have profound issues with marriage I'm working on.) As safe, we definitely are.

Symptomatic, I was. We both were. It's what gotten us together, I think; similar life situations.

Diagnosed, it was in a process. Multiple therapists suggested it as an only possible explanation, psychiatrists were busy ruling out other possibilities.

In the same time, I was clueless about PTSD. Very, very much. People I cherish pointed me to here for no-nonsense explanations; I read it up and decided since I'm able to work and study, I don't need any of that therapy nonsense, and life bit proved me wrong.