General Friends Dropping Like Flies

[CharlotteB]

I'm thankful for my best friend. She and her husband were (are) Marines. He has PTSD so she gets it...although my guy is WAY different! I just feel bad dumping my stuff on her sometimes,,,so I come here :) I have another friend I used to talk to but I don't share as much anymore. I don't want her thinking the worst of my guy.

(@Sweetpea76 How long have you been with your vet? (I know I read it somewhere else, sorry I can't remember.))

 

[Sweetpea76]

@CharlotteB , We're going on 3 years.

 

[Glara]

I don't have any friends anymore. My closest friend dumped me this year. I don't know if it's because she didn't want to hear anymore. When I told her how suicidal he was she asked "how can you take it?" She's never around anymore. I never thought she'd disappear. I don't know why, that seems to be everyone in my life.

Since learning about PTSD because of Ed I've come to believe my father is a sufferer as well. He was stationed in Japan during the Korean War. He was in a training and the rest of his unit was in Korea, like on the show Mash, in a medical unit. They were bombed and all died. My father was the only survivor. He was very strict with me and hard on me growing up. Would get angry and not talk to anyone in the house. I never got close with my cousins and grandparents because he wasn't speaking to them.

I grew up like that and I never learned how to develop and maintain friendships I guess. My marriage lasted as long as it did because I allowed my husband to take advantage of me. He consistently got fired from jobs, took money from me and watched porn. I didn't want my daughter to experience a divorce.

So now I'm alone. My "friends" don't want to deal with me. They don't want to hear about my problems with him. I mean I guess it's why.

 

[hodge]

Guys, I hear you all. I have always been so worried about losing friends since PTSD. I haven't lost any, but I think that's because I put on my best face when I CHOOSE to have time with them. I don't get together with anyone when I'm really in a bad way, because that really causes wear and tear on a friendship. They all know I have PTSD, but I am very judicious about what I share with them, both in terms of what I've been through and how I feel now. Yeah, they're my best friends, but I know this crap can really wear on people if they have to hear about it all the time. I think that's what this forum is for, for those of us suffering to let it out here and talk to others who can relate to us. My friends are pretty good, but they don't really know what it's like and I really avoid dumping on them. I think that's why I haven't lost them. For what it's worth. I'm so very sorry for you guys who have lost friends.