Getting over fears and related reactions?

[SeekingAfrica]

There is a LOT I have gotten over from when I first got PTSD.

However there are things I understand, I have analyzed and talked about... there are certain reactions connected to childhood trauma I just never get over. Even when I go through something and it's fine, more than once, it's like my brain doesn't care at ALL. I keep reacting the same way over and over.

I mean I'm not sure I've coped m7ch better with that trauma itself, it's more of either being so distraught I can't cope, or it's like it's so deep in me that I never think about it. But I'm living with it the best I can.

Maybe not all can be solved. But practical ones should be possible, not my mind acting like I have no long term memory.
Any ideas or stories of how you get over deeply ingrained fears?

 

[arfie]

this is another one i have handed over to radical acceptance. my strictly personal summary is, "there is no cure for the common me."

when i started psychotherapy in the early 70's "inner child" theories were the cat's meow. i bit and i am kinda sad that the theories have fallen out of fashion. before they fell out of fashion, those theories had grown to include, "parenting the inner child." i bit again. one of my more hateful flashbacks was of mini me hiding in a closet wearing a bloody skirt, terrified beyond tears. instead of hating on that terrified child, as was my long habit, i began offering her compassion and care. coaxing her out of that closet took years. i wasn't able to accomplish that without unconditional love and acceptance. you are fine, just the way you are. all you need to change is your skirt.

loving myself, warts and all, remains a challenge, but the gain is worth the pain. i have much more love to give away when i love myself, psychoticks and all. those psychoticks respond to love and acceptance far more than they ever responded to hate and rejection.