How Can She Be So Cruel.

[Deleted member 20280]

After a week since I saw my lovely 4 and 2 years old children. I got to take them for a picnic and water fight yesterday. Assisted contact as I'm not deemed safe to he alone with them after being diagnosed. Scathing look from my estranged wife as our youngest was screaming in his car seat due to the rising temperature. When I was forced to leave due to this condition. My wife told me I had to be the one to telly little girl why her daddy had had to go. So last week I plucked up the courage when I saw her and told he. "daddy can't come home because he is very ill and seeing lots of doctors." Plausible to a four year old. My therapist and social worker both agreed this was the best thing to tell he so that she would understand.

Then yesterday afternoon at the picnic she turned to
Me and said. "Your not sick daddy, you're just pretending" my question back.

"who told you that hunny"

"mummy did"

"she says you a big liar and are making it all up"

My wife has alianated my three eldest children and is now doing the same with my baby girl.

Just how low can people stoop to try and push us over the edge. :cry:

 

[intothelight]

Hi Laurie,

I am sorry you are going through this, and really your ex should know better, as she is just hurting your children in the long run. I do not know why the court or whoever has jurisdiction where you live would limit your contact, but I hope you have the legal representation that allows you to have a voice.

Keep your social worker informed as perhaps they can help and provide assistance to limit the damage. I don't know how people can stoop so low and use children as pawns.

Debbie

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Debbie. After posting this thread I have taken the advice of my therapist and taken myself to hospital to drag my self back from the pit she left me in yesterday.

I have lost my family because of this but gained some of the
Most amazing new friends I could possibly have ever neede to help me through this journey.

The support I have had from this forum has enlightened me so much to save myself from myself.

Wow was a rollercoaster I'm riding food job I live fast rides. :cool:

 

[Mommyof5]

Laurie,

I must first say, hang in there! Parental alienation is a very real and sad thing, but the best thing you can do is remain available for your children. They need you more now than ever before!

Maybe after a little time you would be able to have therapeutic visitation or family therapy with your kids? A social worker could always point you in the right direction. If your visits must be assisted, then therapeutic visits really would be a great choice to help you and your children heal, because it sounds like not only are you suffering, but now your kids are suffering as well.

It could help very much, and it definately would be helpful to have a neutral professional that can report the interactions.

I hope that helps you,

Mommyof5 <3

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Mommyof5 from Daddyto6

This weekend has been the culmination of 40 years of abuse against me. Some of which I have over the years had to disclose to various counsellors and some my lady wife knows from the outbursts I have suffered over the decades. We had been together for just under 20 years prior to me being forced to live apart from my family.

The abuse I suffered spanned nearly 4 decades at the hands of various abusers. starting when I was but a very small boy.

I have posted that recapping already on here entitled "My Journey into Hell and Out again". going back there like I did at the start of my therapy scared me nearly to suicide for the third time in my life. .. the number 3 has always been a mystery to me until now part way down a very very long therapy road. There were three main abusers in my life as a child . Mum eldest brother and the neighbours son. 1973 this all started and 1983 when my sex abuse stopped when he moved away with his family. 1993 when I took my first attempt at suicide. 2003 when I made my second attempt at ending my life. Then we had 3 children all in primary school.

They are all now teenagers and brother and big sisters to 3 more children. our second chance at a happy family at 9 years of no kids (9 =3x3) My estranged wife has i must say been the most influential woman in my life thus far. You see I am not an educated man by any means as my mother held me back at school. now we have 6 children three teens and three under 5's. I am amazed now how many times that number has featured in the last 42 years. Our first marital home being number 3. Our first bought home being 63, then 9 again and back to 54. All you see divisible by the number 3. Including my latest breakdown in 2013.

Phew are my fingers starting to hurt. Good job I type for a living eh !!!!!!

Well that took nearly as long to type as the reports i banged out at work this afternoon. I have said it many a time on this Forum. If I hadn't engaged with this therapy like I did. I would have orphaned 6 children just over 9 weeks ago.

Laurie 71 aka DADDYTO6

:D

 

[Mommyof5]

I was abused by my neighbour's adult son from 12-16. There were other abusive men in my life during that time, also. In between being molested, I was raped of my virginity by my friend's cousin (whom also lived on the same road) at 13. Soon after, (literally the next day) my neighbour's son began raping me on a nightly basis.

By 16, he was drugging me and selling my body to his buddies. He also began beating me, and he kept me in a drunken state. Right before my 17th birthday I finally broke free, and my now husband is the man that I can thank for helping me to escape and find a safe haven.

I have noticed a number correlation regarding my husband. Like, our scrambled birth years, 6-7-8-9, and our birth months are right next to each other.

I can relate, but I could never imagine the same situation but being a male. I would think it is even harder because of the stigma around masculinity.

I also think you are so brave for getting help and being honest, and a good father for remaining as present as you have considering everything going on around you and within.

I wish you the best,

Mommyof5 <3

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Thanks mommy, wanting acceptance as a child has transposed itself to adulthood. I hit a full stop in my life. Found myself at the pit edge and have climbed back out. Standing strong now x x