This evening I forgave my self and used deep breathing and muscle relaxation to help combat my mind's desire to beat my self half to death over "volunteering" to continue to complete an art project for someone that I did NOT want to do after they kept adding on to the same project.
Initially, this friend said the project would be simple...then kept adding on, and adding on to it making it nearly intolerable to complete...yet I did complete it. I again practiced a lot of deep breathing and shoulder rolls and staying in the moment (mindfulness) to complete said project. And I practiced self-forgiveness as well.
As I was beating my self up (so I immediately forgave my self for continuing to work on the said project) and for continuing to say, "Yes, I'll complete it!" to my friend.
When I really wanted to say..."Hell...to the no I won't!" I've forgiven my self and did complete this art project tonight and I also forgave my self and celebrated the completion of the said project.
I indulged on two dark chocolate bars and popping the cork on a bottle of delicious sparkling cider and drinking a glass of sparkling Apple Cider vinegar that I was gifted to me that I'd been saving a few months for the last week of December.
I've not had dark chocolate or anything "sparkling" for months now. And after the chocolate bars I stopped indulging (in the past I would've have cleared out more food from my fridge. I'm very proud of my self for not doing this! Yay!
I did not have to overeat and actually nurtured by self and loved on my self after this yukky project. And my little girl child within "loved!" the dark chocolate and bubbles from the sparkling cider.
I finally openly verbalized to my friend (after I realized that I wasn't honest with my self or him and that I was people-pleasing him which had earlier infuriated me at my self) that I'd never again do this particular project because I hated do this one from the very outset.
And I also said to him that the next time to please stop adding on and on to his initial artsy request for me to work on...because I won't do add-ons in the future...if he tries again to add on and on to his initial request again.
During this exchanged I have learned so much about people-pleasing and a lot about saying "no!" sooner than as this time...later when I'm unwilling to do something...anything.
Great lessons learned about my self in this exchange with my friend. Yay!
And thank you
@Disco Dancing Queen for posting your above two mindfulness resources.