How do you stop feeling worthless?

[Joo]

i cant stop i know its wrong to think this way and i should be positive but i honestly feel so lost and alone.

i have such an amazing group of friends but i feel so worthless and detached and its eating me inside. even when im around them.

its a headache and my body feels heavy i want to live normally. but i just cant stop thinking negatively. help please.

like i'll be around my friends and be all happy and then all of a sudden i'll just randomly shut down and bring down everybody's mood. i keep thinking that they'll find me annoying and i know for a fact that its not true but the thoughts keep coming. i want help but at the same time i dont want to talk to anybody. i want to disappear. even the smallest of interactions is stressing me out now. its wrong and i want it to stop. please help.

 

[Em C.]

WHat I find helps is writing down facts that are accomplishments (if that makes sense)

ie I'm in university; I ate today; I've made it till 20 etc etc.

Good luck and PM me if you wanna talk! :)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

It sounds like you are a wonderful person to have great friends. This is wonderful to have this in your life. I have often felt like you and feelings are not facts. It is part of the healing process to feel the way you do around people because you are growing and changing and that can be painful.

I like writing down my accomplishments to remind me that I am human and not perfect but there are good times and there are bad times with PTSD.

Do you go to a qualified therapist? Even so called normal people feel lost and alone at times. I know I do. But I am learning to try to meet my needs and mabe your needs are to be alone to sort things out in your being.

You are not a downer person to have great friends. It is painful to grow and to change and it is a lengthy process at least it has been for me. The most painful for me is the shattering of my own illusions I have maintained. The truth underlying is so much better but it hurts like hell and it is a hard.

Do you know what you need and want? Mabe you could begin there in a journal unless you already do that and get to know the new you. I sure hope this helps if not please ignore.

 

[Laurie McLaughlin]

I know how you feel, Joo

One great thing about friends is that they can see what we cannot in ourselves. But if they can see it, then it must be there, and all we have to do is connect or reconnect with those good things that others see in us.

What works for me is to think about the good qualities others see in me and look for those qualities until i can find them in myself. Sometimes I can only touch that good qualify for a minute or two and then it disappears but I can feel more grounded and better about myself because I felt it if even for a moment. Then I work at getting it to appear more and more often and stronger and stronger until it becomes a quality that once again feels natural for me.

And then when the negative thoughts come up that I am worthless, I can counteract it by recalling the feeling of the good qualities others see in me. And eventually I can actually own those good qualities again.

Hoping you find peace - Laurie