I don’t want to pay this woman to chit chat. what’s she doing?

[Gs172003]

Do you feel comfortable saying “I want to talk about _____”

Or

“I don’t want to talk ab...

I'll work on it

Those are all things about you. Your job. Your family. Your marriage. Your life.

Those topics ca...

I'm wondering now if she isn't trying to establish trust because, well, I've bailed on her before.

 

[Friday]

I'm wondering now if she isn't trying to establish trust because, wel

The only way to know what her motivations are is to ask her.

 

[LuckiLee]

That's kinda why I asked if she was new. It seems like she's trying to get to know you.

 

[Mee]

Zoogal, going back is brave.

Maybe a conversation about pace?

My T and I decided things work best for me when I feel slightly pushed but not pushed into a trauna/ shut down reaction. I ASKED for a more intense pace / push because I trust her.


If you have dropped out before then maybe you do need a slower pace and to feel ’gentler’? But no reason ug cannot be on a topic that you feel helpful

 

[MyWillow]

I'm wondering now if she isn't trying to establish trust because, well, I've bailed on her before.[/QUOT...

I have pushed to hurry things along and ended up in a right mess. I am the worst judge of what I need in session. And I like having a sense of control. So I am trusting my T - a little bit more - to pace things. If she wants to slow me down we talk about my work and my dogs and training them....super chit chat type stuff but it gives her a topic to call on when I need grounding. Which I do quite a bit.

 

[Mee]

I noticed my rape advocate would talk about dogs a lot when I was ’agitated ’ to ground me. The chit chat was useful then.

 

[Gs172003]

This isn't a regular occurrence. I will also admit I'm scared to ask her.

 

[Justmehere]

Part of therapy is building a therapeutic alliance. Asking her about this might help that alliance become stronger.

 

[Mee]

This isn't a regular occurrence. I will also admit I'm scared to ask her.

. What about a list she could see as a prompt?

It only needs a couple of things on it.


If its a single thing then listing examples might help.

Are you scared of this in therapy or scarce with your T?

 

[Gs172003]

. What about a list she could see as a prompt?

It only needs a couple of things on it.


If its a singl...

I'm scared to ask her why she's doing what she's doing. The list I might be able to do. I'll give it a try.

 

[Marinna]

I'm scared to ask her why she's doing what she's doing. The list I might be able to do. I'll give it a t...

I'm not so concerned about the chit chat. I'm more concerned about the dynamic being a little too unequal. Being scared to broach something might make sense if its deeply personal or traumatic, but the direction of therapy? I hope you and the T will build up enough trust too adress this. Sounds a little off atm.

 

[Gs172003]

I'm not so concerned about the chit chat. I'm more concerned about the dynamic being a little too unequ...

Sorry