I need to deal with thoughts in therapy... why is this rejected?

[Justmehere]

I keep stating doing body-based work in therapy is a no for me. I won't do it. I will not even do deep breathing. I will not do anything in therapy to use my body to regulate. Why? It was pushed so much so hard by prior therapists it became an obession and one that went a very dark place. I can do it on my own. I can do it with others. When my PT reminds me, take a breath, no issue. I regularly (and almost obessively) use physical body based grounding and deep breathing to regulate as best as possible. I am a fan of it in limited ways.

Also I have a mind with thoughts. Addressing thoughts matters. I am 100 game for addressing thoughts, feelings, etc. I simply set a clear boundary, NO, I will not use my body

If it works for others to use and do in therapy, I celebrate that. It's a no for me in therapy for now.

There appears to be no therapist on this planet that will just let this the eff go and just stop near bullying me over it. I don't get it. I thought I found a temp therapist that was going to let it go. They said they would. They did at times. Now they are pushing it again. And again. And again. I keep asking to talk about my thoughts. I show workbooks on thoughts that are helping. He keeps sending texts about using body based grounding. I honestly got to the point of almost screaming at him to stop. I said stop. I said it many times. He drops it only to bring it up again later.

I have not found any therapist that does otherwise.

I don't think I will be returning for this and other reasons, which means no therapy at all. I'm frustrated.

 

[arfie]

hm-m-m-m-m. . . i dunno if it applies, but your post put me in mind of the years where i was demanding that my shrinks quit saying, "amnesia" like it was a bad thing. i couldn't remember my childhood, but i knew my current day birth family well enough to believe forgetting my childhood was the best option available. this was in the 70's and many of my shrinks called me, "a help-seeking denier" before they dumped me. that meant that i was always asking for help, then invalidating every scrap of help offered. with my 20-20 hindsight, all that makes more sense to me now, especially with the vastly improved memory functions i have gained from learning how to say, "amnesia" like it a bad thing.

but that is me and every case is unique. just sharing.

steadying support while you sort your own case.

 

[Justmehere]

Yeah, I remember when not remembering stuff was seen was terrible. Now? Seems like it's common inside and outside of trauma histories. Shrug.

There are fads in mental health care... and reactions to those fads. Maybe trends is a better word? Over time, it shifts and changes.

There's been such a backlash to the limits of talk therapy... CBT, ACT, all that... but not sure it all needs to be tossed.

 

[arfie]

Maybe trends is a better word? Over time, it shifts and changes.

i like to call ^it^, "development." we often forget that psychology is an infant science and that baby has allot of growing up to do.

sigh. . . the more promising the infant, the more precocious their missed guesses.