I was just fired and a complete mess!

[lostforgottensoul]

Did a little double-checking for you on the COBRA stuff at the DOL. Per the website, you have 45 days to make your first payment and then a 30 day grace period each month thereafter to make regular payments.

Yes but I have no idea how much and where to send it as they havent told me.

ADP, Fiserv, Convergys (have heard awful things about them though!!), AAA, AT&T, Chase, Sears Holdings, Veritas (not sure about call center, but are tech), Symantec, Paychex

And Sprint (off Mailtland Blvd. Cant work there again sadly as I took umemployment there. Sadly aa they're hire on is $12.99 an hour. I didn't know AT&T had a local call center. I'm assuming "Paychex" deals with money. I can't work with money (I learned in my early adulthood) nor can I put things on like Excel and stuff like that due to being dyslexic. I transpose stuff and most especially dealing with money, thats a super bad thing.

But will look into all of those. Thanks for that list!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

COBRA

I didn't read the paper all the way apparently. It says they will mail it within 2 weeks. Its been a week and a half so should be getting it any day.

 

[VioletButterfly]

Paychex, Paylocity, and ADP all deal with administering corporate HR products. I believe you'd be dealing with business-to-business system and customer service issues from what I understand. I'm sure they'd have training, so maybe take your customer service skills in a different direction?? Oh, also, I thought of Cox cable. I believe they are also somewhere here in the Orlando area.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Oh, also, I thought of Cox cable. I believe they are also somewhere here in the Orlando area.

No it is, or what was, Brighthouse bought by Charter and now here renamed Spectrum. They have 2 call centers. The closest one isnt tech support but customer service but will apply to both.

 

[VioletButterfly]

Sorry for the randomness of some suggestions, just little thoughts circling like planes at OIA. lol

Good luck! :tup:

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Sorry for the randomness of some suggestions, just little thoughts circling like planes

No need to be sorry! I appreciate the help! :hug:

 

[lostforgottensoul]

So, the not wanting to look for a job, sleeping all day, and distracting on youtube 10 hrs, not able to get up and out to train my service dog in training, my therapist says is "seperating". Numbing off all of it and having a hard time approaching it due to being overwhelmed. Ive had an incredablly short fuse as well. But my therapist said to just get in the job sites like monster and look around. Don't put the pressure on myself to apply right now. The 401K money should be here any day so he said since I will be ok for a while, to just look around on the sites for now. I found most of the call center jobs are requiring a BA now. Why? Not IT jobs. Just customer service ones. I thought it was easier to find a job today without a college degree, not harder! I did find one on Monster, OptumRX (was my prescription plan and I totally hated them as they would force me to mail order prescriptions. Its part of United HealthCare), that doesn't require any degree or certification or any experience in insurence or prescriptions, which is odd to me. I want to apply but its in Orlando, a 30 min drive down 1-4, and I am worried about my car going to Orlando and back every day. I will use the remainder of the 401K money for a car but it will take a bit to find and buy one.

Anyway, I just overwhelmed myself again. I didn't see Spectrum. Maybe just not on Monster? AT&T isn't local. And I am not finding much that I can apply for. I am looking at temp agencies (though I need insurence and thats not always an option or if it is its usually expensive but still an option), and "reemployment" State options.

Its more gathering up some options and ideas, looking at sites and whats out there, and poking around.

I HATE THIS!

 

[joeylittle]

What does your therapist say about starting the process to file for disability?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@joeylittle, he didn't say too much about it directly other then you normally have to apply twice (or appeal) but the feeling I got about it is that he wants me to stay working for as long as possible. He spoke a lot about IT certifications and getting a job in that field later and being independant again. He knows about the pain as well so its not like he doesn't have all the info. I am not sure what I feel about disablity myself. I am worried about anxiety, frustration and the short fuse (short tone thats happening all the time now) and pain though. Due to pain I am very limited anyway. I don't see a way to try for disabilty unless I live off my dad (and leave my therapist to follow him when he moves). My step mom waited 5 yrs trying to get it and was still denied that last time and had to start all over from the beginning if she wanted to try again and she had a advocate I believe its called. I would need to at least wait a year or probably two. I think you can make a little bit of money but not much. It is like impossible to get disabilty unless you have someone to live with while waiting. It sucks! I know @She Cat is in this spot too. And my therapist very much knows how unhealthy it is for me to stay with my dad. He is not a fan of it.

So, not sure if any of that rambling answered your question. Its quite depressing as I am in a spot that I can see myself disabled or unable to work and it is like impossible to get disabilty if living alone. If I don't want to be homeless that is. I am not sure my therapist sees needing it mentally at this point though but I can if I look at it from another point of view. Its one of those things that I can see both being able to work and being unable to work if that makes sense.

 

[anthony]

You f*cked up... it happens to us all. What you do now is the true test of your character. Lay down, roll over and whither, OR, get up, dust yourself off and find yourself a new job, new career path, or even disability, regardless, the choice is yours. Own the choice you make and fight hard for your choice.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Own the choice you make and fight hard for your choice.

This sounds just like me. Not sure why I am having a hard time doing it but I am starting to "move" if you will. I've never been in this whatever it is. I have lost jobs and right away looked for a new one. I was once on unemployement and stretched it out on purpose but was also trying to situate my meds for pain so I could work and lived in my dad's house, rent free. That's different now. I am frustrated that I am having a hard time getting my ass moving.

I would fight for disabilty but I can't seem to find a plan to keep myself in a home without living off my dad and he wants to move back to my hometown. I just can't seem to make it work. I don't know if my dad would allow me to live off of him beyond Oct and I don't think $6,400 will last long with Cobra or the cost self paying my pain Dr and therapist anyway. So just can't see a way to fight for it. I guess I could talk to an advocate myself. Just always want a plan B at least and I can't seem to see one. I don't mean if disabilty fails. Just mean how to I stay in a home while waiting for it? So going back to work is the only option I can see. But you are right, I need to pull myself up.

 

[joeylittle]

Maybe you should make an appointment to get a disability consult...you might be right about the reasons you gave for why you should not start the process, but some of those reasons might be wrong. What I see from the outside is that you are painting yourself into a corner. You also seem to be spending time actively preparing for serious mobility assistance - which seems to indicate you won't be able to work much longer.

Unless I'm misreading.

I'm sure your therapist is very pro-certifications and/or schooling. So am I, FWIW - your options would expand.

I know how easy it is for everything to look impossible. The hardest thing to do during those times is sort out:

What am I willing to do?
What am I unwilling to do?
What is actually impossible right now?

Most things we think are impossible are actually things we are unwilling to do. There are lots of reasons why. Sometimes fear, sometimes willfulness, sometimes discomfort. Other things too. The hardest to overcome are those that are symptoms of our diagnoses.

I know for myself, things I think are impossible are often not - it's heavy symptoms that are creating that distortion. Even if I decide NOT to do those things - as in, I'm unwilling - it's good to shift them from 'can't' to 'won't'. Sometimes, it makes things clearer.