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Relationship I'm Bitter And Angry It's Over

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CCurry

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Wow, I never ever thought I'd be in this situation and be writing this now.

Rather than go into my history, there are those of you who know me and I'll leave it at that.

I did something I should not have done but in hindsight it was the best thing I did, I opened up my bf's cell phone bill this afternoon. Because I just really needed to see if there was anything unappropriate in there and sure enough there was a phone number that kept appearing over and over again, he'd call this number 4 to 5 times a day and often late at night. Sometimes the late night calls would last for 2 hours. I called this number and it is a girl that he used to work with, no longer does. While I knew they had maintained a friendship I can also put two and two together here. In the beginning when things were great with us he'd tell me how she'd say things like, you're hot and can I touch your arms. Back then I told him that I didn't like the sound of that but he told me even I wasn't in the picture, he wouldn't be with a girl like that, wasn't attracted to her anyway.

I call him, he's out of town "working" (how appropriate its Valentine's Day) and he finally called me back, I told him what if I told you that I have proof you are having an affair and of course he denied it, and got frustrated and told me he couldn't discuss this now because he was at work.

It gets worse, there are so many parking tickets that have come to the house and because we've switched up the cars, he drives my car, I drive his the tickets are in my name. I open the envelope and all these tickets are from a residential area, when I brought this up to him demanding to know the truth he fessed up and said that was where he was going to his AA meetings. These parking tickets have kept on arriving, has to be about 30+ of them. I did a 411 search on her name to see where this girl lives and BINGO the same address where he's been getting tons of parking tickets.

I drove by the apartment and his car wasn't there but I have all the proof I need. I sent him a text from there saying "Isn't it a coincidence that your AA meetings are at E###'s apartment? I had no idea she was your sponsor....you disgust me"

Still haven't heard back from him and its been more than 2 hours. I left him a VM, his cell was off and in essence said it all makes sense, I really was your trigger because I represent everything that you are not, decent, loyal and loving.
 
Sorry to hear. I guess... fair enough that your bitter and angry... kinda have something to be pretty pissed about I guess.
 
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I am just pissed first of all. Well, stunned, THEN pissed.

Yes, things sometimes happen in relationships. For so many reasons. But I think that it is inexcusable to hurt another person like this. I hear your hurt. I hear your sorrow.

You are such a good person and although there is little I can say to take the pain away, you have my support, friendship and You know that you will be in my thoughts as you face this in the coming days, week, months.

:Hug_emoticon:

ISH
 
I am so sorry CC, there is no excuse for this kind of behaviour. You are a good person as ISH said and I am angry that these things have come to pass.

Thinking of you.

Rell
 
CC...Remember to take care of yourself during this rough time.....I know it's a lot more than just the relationship that you are worried about, but hang in there, you are strong and you can handle this....
 
Hi CC,

i know everyone on this forum who has been following your story will be shocked and feeling for you right now.

This is when you need to do the right thing for YOU and no one else. Your friends from this forum will do whatever they can to help and support you through this ordeal as you have supported us through ours.

Take care and speak soon

Helena
xx
 
I'm so sorry you have this dreadful betrayal- good heavens who would not be bitter, angry and more than hurt? It must seem surreal, to have put in so much care, attention and effort into someone who is at heart a big schmuck.

I hope you're taking care of yourself. This man does not even slightly deserve someone as lovely as you.

Anni
 
I don't post much, CC, but i just wanted to say that i do follow your threads. You're such a strong person, and it really shows through out everything you have written. Today, i am saddened to know that this is the result of your relationship with this man. I am truly sorry this has happened. I can understand the pain you must feel knowing you put sooo much into the relationship, supporting him, encouraging him, and also letting him be. Exhaustion from doing everything you can to support your sufferer, to find out that this is how you are treated. I am very sorry. I can't say, it'll be okay, and i can't say take care of yourself...because at this point, how is one to take care of themself after finding something out like that. It's a huge blow...i'm sorry your heart was ripped out. If you ever want to talk, send me a PM, our stories are kinda similar.
 
Hi CC,

I am sorry to read all this, you have every right to be "Pissed and Angry", who wouldn't be. Be kind to yourself though, it was not you that did wrong stand up and hold your head high. It will be tough while you process all this and more.

You will get through this with help and understanding from your friends, who will support you and be there whenever you need them.

Take care of YOU now, your own well being is important.

A million of these :Hug_emoticon: just for you from all of us here.

Amethist
 
Hi CC

I'm very proud and inspired by you. Why? Beacause you went down a road that not many people would, with love,compassion and a desire to help and heal. I'm a much stronger person than i was 5 months ago when i was introduced to PTSD's ugly head. I felt anger, betrayed, confussed and defeated, but with guidance from everyone here i stand strong on my own 2 feet now. Would i walk that road again? No, but it was a vauable lesson in life i will never forget. I know these words won't take the pain away but you are a great person, keep pushing forward.

Rob
 
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