Relationship It's My Birthday.......

[KO18]

Sunshine71 I know exactly how you feel!

I never realized that Birthday and holidays would be such a pain! I know I sound like a winey baby but BF didnt get me anything for Christmas :( He knew I had a gift for him. A few weeks before Christmas, he said that he needed to figure out what he was getting me but then it came time for me to give him his gifts and he had nothing for me. He said that he felt bad about not getting me anything when I gave him his gift but that was pretty much it.

The next day we went to a mall and I helped him shop for his family... Nothing for me. We went to one store where he bought odor eliminating candles to help with his dogs... he asked if I wanted one! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! An odor eliminating candle! I don't need anything expensive... but something with a little bit of thought would have been nice... heck I would have been ok with a gift card to a restaurant that we both enjoy that he would pretty much get to use anyway!

So should I be straight forward on future things like Valentine's day, birthdays, and Christmas... "Its not ok to not acknowledge these things" or how do you guys handle this?

 

[Sunshine71]

Poor you KO18 - odor candles!!! Hubby bought me some clothes for Xmas - they were HORRIBLE!!! Not me at all! I took them back and of ocurse the £'s jut get used up another way - food and bills!

Oh well!

I saw a new counsellor Friday - It was good to talk.

She said I must create some ME time.

Ha HA!

Tonight I have chilled and looked at beauty products on my laptop and got my hair cut AND took my son to a new indoor play park.

A good day :O)

Even hubby made some profiteroles! :O)

With love to you all

Sunshine xx

 

[KO18]

Sounds like an awesome day! Not going to lie.... I had to google "profiteroles"... Cream Puffs... Gotcha!!

I wish BF knew how to make something besides grilled chicken!

They might have been horrible but at least he tried... always find the silver lining! :)

By the way... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Enjoy the Spa!!

 

[Nicolette]

Wishing everyone a Happy Birthday that is having one; coming up to one.

After 5 years of PTSD Supporter experience my advice is this - say what you want, spell it out without any drama or guilt trips, say you will make the arrangements and give them plenty of notice with a weekly reminder so they mentally prepare. It works. Seriously it is not personal and if you are dealing with a man - don't play the cryptic hint games us women play.

That's JMHO. :speechless:

 

[Sunshine71]

Dear all

Your Birthday wishes are appreciated and your words have really helped me - thank you.

We managed to have a few good days & a had a nice birthday - and hubby seems to be fine again to day - everything is crossed of course.

I saw the following book on this forum too and have just started to read it too.......

With love and thanks

Sunshine x

When Someone You Love Suffers from Posttraumatic Stress: What to Expect and What You Can Do: 9781609180652: Medicine & Health Science Books @ Amazon.com

 

[Srain]

Thank you for the update! :)

I'm so glad you both managed to have a good time, that matters and it's forward movement away from the past. I can so appreciate that! (My Hunny still a weird habit of signing cards "from....." :confused:, like I'm his friend or something, bugs the holy heck out of me and it's hard not to get riled up about it. )

Thanks for the referral.

Peace and healing,
Rain

 

[Toria]

Ah, I'm so glad that you managed to have a nice day. It makes all the difference when important days go well. I haven't seen that book before - it looks good - another to go on the shopping list!

 

[Barberian]

First off, Happy Birthday!

eh, I'll leave it at that and not spoil it with my story :p.

I hope you have a truly wonderful birthday.