Lost Trust In The Forums

[Etazat]

I think journaling is about listening to yourself.

Yes to an extent this is very true. But if we could listen to ourself, are we able to with honesty in our own best self interest. JMHO Depending on individual traumas or illness, I would not trust myself to be my therapist.

Self-diagnosis gone wrong can lead to worse situations. Skilled therapists don't always get it right either. I personally have found more honesty with forum conversations of members with similar experiences.

Still searching the other article, I don't give up easy :)

 

[Peles]

I took some time away from the forum and it was strange when I came back, because, of course there were new people(at least new to me).

I am one who is not big into groups of any kind or size. My friends are not friends with each other. They are individually loyal to me. Less chance of issues.

On here it is different. I see that some people are closer than other's but, for whatever reasons, I find myself okay with that. Which is totally unusual for me. What I haven't seen is people being rude to one another because of it. Well for the most part. We are, after all, still human.

I hope you start to feel comfortable. Well, at least as comfortable as me. That would be a start one not group person to another.

 

[Rosumu]

Thank you. I am making an effort and sharing more on the forums. But I still feel very much like an outsider, and battle with imagining that people don't like me, and I should just leave.

 

[Peles]

I think like that sometimes. But then I am aware it lies more within me then them. I hope, if this is overall helping you, that you stay.

 

[Elov]

"Heno" here again, . . .
The original poster (OP) mentioned that they hadn't noticed a change in the forums but that a change had happened to them which caused them to feel less connected. They also made reference to feeling that others may have given somewhat judgmental replies . . .
I'm not sure how much the OP has found these things to be true after posting here, receiving feedback, and thinking about things more. However, in the several weeks, I'm feeling that things have changed - I feel the addition of the new forums specifically for PTSD related to combat, domestic violence (DV), etc. have provided the opportunity for folks to connect with others whose trauma is more related to their own. However, at the same time I also feel that the additional sites coupled with the new informational posts have somewhat diluted this site, i.e. the original site. That makes me rather sad. In the last few weeks I've hardly posted here - except to a couple of innocuous threads in "Chit Chat" - Anyone else having the same sense about this?

 

[Arida]

New to this thread. I too see distinct social circles with some very helpful and prolific members however as I don't relate to their insight I find I myself feeling a little disconnected. I also personally find that intimidating even though there is no harm in it but it makes me wary. I also miss certain members that were around when I first joined and gave me the best advice who have now left or are not currently present and whilst I'm glad for them, to not need this site (though I worry the opposite), I miss their insight as it was so particularly good.

I definitely find the news reports too much - it feels impersonal and like I can't get through to the posts that I would like. That's not to say that I object to them entirely but it would be great if they were in a one message a day/week with each article as different posts or if they were under a group or subforum of news (like chit chat) , and weren't displayed on the front page. That way when I want to do extra reading I can find all of this great information but that it's not in my face all the time.

 

[Rosumu]

Original poster here. this thread was about changes in me and about my struggles with trust, and it was written with the intention of looking for a way to address my issues.

Changes happen on the forum and in life, and negotiating that is kind of part of learning and growing.